Hi. I hope you are ok. I wanted to check on you. I'm doing alright. Told H to shove his D up his a$$ and started going out. Actually, he's been more attentive toward me believe it or not. Odd, I know but moving on is really the only way to see what can happen. I'm proud of you....because you are still in it.
omg Stronger! I thought you would never come back and reply to my thread. Thats good your doing good.
Just a little update. This past saturday my son went to bed around 9:30pm and woke up around 11:10pm and he was burning up like crazy. He wanted mommy and I knew she was at her boyfriends house. I texted her to see if she can come back and check up on him because I have been up since 7:30am from work and getting the party ready. No response from her.
Sunday she comes and picks up the kids both of them still ill and realizes that I wasn't lying go figure.
Monday she stays home because he is still sick and burning up, she calls me too see if she can drop him off that night because he is still sick. Yet she didn't take him in to see the Dr's. all day. She drops him off at my moms I sleep over there and take care of him.
Tuesday today I get up run errands for my mom before I go to work he is still burning up I have to run to work, I tell her look you better come and take him in he is still sick. She comes and takes him to the Dr's he has another ear infection. She sets up a Dr's appointment for my daughter tomorrow at 11:40 am and says for me to take my daughter tonight.
If it wasn't for my kids I would tell her to shove it. Or should I tell her to shove it? Geez just kind of ranting because whenever I have the kids and they are sick and I need her she is no where to be found but when she has the kids and they need help I'm always there! And Yes its snowing finally.
Me:27 W:24 S:2 D:9 months M:3 years Together for 8 years Bombed : 6/11/09 Moved out: 6/27/09 Found out about her affair 9/7/09 (she started her's at 6/25/09) Begged n plead 7/25/09 started DB 8/17/09
It's very simple when it comes to the kids. You ask yourself, "What is the best thing I can do for my child to make them comfortable?" Once you answer it, you do it. Believe they will remember. She wants to pull this kind of crap, they will figure it out and they will hold it against her.
There's being a crappy wife. Then there's being a crappy mother, which I don't care what anyone says....that makes you a crappy person.
Me:27 W:24 S:2 D:9 months M:3 years Together for 8 years Bombed : 6/11/09 Moved out: 6/27/09 Found out about her affair 9/7/09 (she started her's at 6/25/09) Begged n plead 7/25/09 started DB 8/17/09
Oh the date was awesome! We were suppose to meet up with my friends to go ice skating but my other friends were late meeting up. We ended up karoaking over at my other friends house. Lol and then after that we hit the club. I had a blast there and I bet I was glowing. Afterwards we went to go eat at Flamburger at 3 in the morning and we got back to my apt and just knocked out. Just got done dropping her off.
I feel great! And I get my kids today too yes I miss them. So all in all I'm doing good for now.
Me:27 W:24 S:2 D:9 months M:3 years Together for 8 years Bombed : 6/11/09 Moved out: 6/27/09 Found out about her affair 9/7/09 (she started her's at 6/25/09) Begged n plead 7/25/09 started DB 8/17/09
It's good that you had a good time, but I gotta say, you've still got alot of growing up to do before you get into another R. And I'm saying that for your kids.
If your W is being the irresponsible one, you've got to provide some kind of stability for them. Not saying that you can't go out, but from what it looks like, you haven't changed your behavior (drinking, short tempered, etc.) and that's going to carry on into your next R as well.
Just my 2 cents.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Oh I know and I don't plan on getting into another relationship at this momment. I know there are things I need to work out on myself. And I know out of the two of us, one of us has to be there all the time for the kids. It was just a great night and the date was really fun. Makes it easier to detach when your having fun with the opposite sex.
Me:27 W:24 S:2 D:9 months M:3 years Together for 8 years Bombed : 6/11/09 Moved out: 6/27/09 Found out about her affair 9/7/09 (she started her's at 6/25/09) Begged n plead 7/25/09 started DB 8/17/09
Good stuff dude. Just make sure the new chick is cool with your situation. You don't have to give her the details and all of that, but you have to give her enough information to be respectful of her.
