Thank you for posting on my thread! It sounds like your H & my H are a lot alike with our sitch. I do hope those memories come & hit him so hard that he can't stand it!
I went & got the tags for my SUV today & had to get his name off the title, that was sad!!!! I really hated having to do it but I did. Waiting in that line for the emissions test & the tags was terrible!! I hate waiting in line!!!
Since I've gotten home tho, I've had that song "The Prodigal Son's Coming Home" stuck in my mind & it won't go away! I've only played it twice & for something I've never heard it doesn't usually stick like that & I even remember the words to the chorus. Sure hope that is a good sign!
Are you melting yet with the heat? I'll bring the margaritas.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
NLT made a comment: "You don't just fall out of love." YR says: Like I said before those memories don't just disappear. They might be hidden right now but they will come flooding back.
I think this is interesting, would anyone care to expand on this further?
My W is distant from me right now, I am just trying to see what she might be thinking or feeling.
It is true, they bury those feelings deep inside of them and try to deny what they really feel.
When they begin to come out of the fog, those feelings reappear. As my H has been saying since February--he never stopped loving me, misses me always, etc.
It might take a few years, but those feelings do reappear. It took my husband a little over two years to tell me he still loved me.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
From what I learned in my C appts. That MLCer's tend to bury any feelings for their spouses. When my h was going through his mess I got the "I don't have any feelings left for you." Many more of those kind of statements. They are feeling so guilty it is easier for them to bury those feelings.
When my h started to morph out of MLC back into a human again he told me the same things. I had always loved me, he thought of me and the kids all the time, he missed me.
My h has been home for about a year and a half now and it wasn't until last November that he was able to say that he loved me and he put his wedding band back on. I didn't push him to do it, he did it on his own when he was ready.
