Wow, I never thought I would be here posting! I use to come here and read and be so jealous...
My H threw me a total curve ball in November and told me he wanted out, he left I basically went dark but didn't know how to go dark I did it just to survive before I found Michelle's book, we had a few TMs but basically for 6 weeks we avoided each other at all cost, then on 12/16 we saw each other for the first time, on 12/23 we talked for the first time, and I was spinning out of control, found Michelle's book on 12/26 and started DBing like there was no tomorrow, on 1/12 he came to pick up my daughter (not his biological child but he was still seeing her) to take her to dinner and I was dressed to go out, answered the door made small talk with him, kissed D goodbye and got in my car and left at the same time him and D left...
I have worked really hard on improving myself thru all of this, I lost 40 lbs, got into counseling, worked on being the best mom I could be, got a promotion at work etc.
About an hour after he left he started TMing me, we ended up meeting for a drink and talked until the sun was coming up, had dinner together Saturday, spend Sunday together, had dinner together last night and we have an appt. Wed. with a marriage C, a date planned for Thursday and Friday and things seem to be on the right track,
wow! that's great! I wish you the best, and I hope you also keep your DB principles and give him time and space as he tries to find his way back or testing the waters. Remember that men are like rubber bands, they get close then they move away, so don't loose heart if he seems to pull away a bit later on.
Over all, don't expect things to pick up where you left off before the M started going downhill.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
MChris stick around....the rebuilding stage can be long and confusing too...it's better when the WAS wants to try BUT there are still plenty of things which can ambush you...what I'm saying is if you get stuck give us all a shout.
Bomb (ILYBINILWY, don't want to be married)Sept05 Seperated Sept/Oct 05 Oct 06 - H recomitted July 11 - I am now a WAW.
Please do continue to post as the piecing stage is so crucial in rebuilding the M. It will also give people like me who are still trying to get their partners back into their lives hope and understanding of what to expect once our WAs come back.
Thanks so much and you're an inspiration.
rainbowlove ============== JG is coming back to me! Positive thinking.
MC, you are already over here?!?! Good job!!! I do the same thing with being over here snooping and getting jealous. Glad you can admit it so I can too
No offense Piecing People but us Separated People work HARD and cannot wait to get over here. Even if the work from Peicing onward is just as difficult, we would much rather be doing it all from "home" WITH our spouse there every night
Keep DBing, we are all happy for you and wishing you the best!
Snoop all you want, we have lots of struggles too - its a step in the right direction but it doesn't come without work and lots of setbacks
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
It's been a month and I have to say things are AWESOME! H is back at home (I called him WAS first..ha)...we are going to counseling, keeping a date night once a week, communicating, both truly working on saving our marriage, we have hit some road blocks, turns out the OW was his boss, claimes nothing sexual but needless to say he has put in for a transfer and hopefully that will happen this week, his kids are still an issue but because of DBing I'm handling things so differently sometimes I think I confuse him because I am so different...lol
