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Hi Jessie - I was glad to see your update. Regarding the feedback you received about not pushing, you ultimately have to decide what works best for your situation. To paraphrase what MWD says, do more of what works and less of what doesn't. Just remain mindful of falling back into old patterns and mistaking those for "what works" if it really did contribute to the challenges in your marriage. I was also glad to see you building up your boundaries, especially around OW. MWD talks about infidelity in her books and John Gottman does as well. He has an especially good chapter on it in What Makes Love Last. In addition to the discussions on this board on infidelity, I encourage you to check out these books. Do make sure you're setting aside time to care for yourself too!
