March 21st will be one year since my divorce was final. The loss is still larger than life.
My son has challenged me beyond belief. On the good side, he signed to play college ball. Wonderful - On the not so good side, he is angry, hateful, ugly, incorrigible, disrespectful - you get the picture
XH has been a dirty, disgusting pig.
My life MUST get better - however it won't until I am responsible for no one else but myself. And that time is about 10 weeks away. I will take my son 4 hours away and he will start school.
I can do this.
M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years Ds-24,22/S-18 D - 3/11 A Day at a Time
Yes, you can. I keep being afraid of the future. But am thinking is has to be beter than the present. I hope you get throught the next 10 weeks easily.
I will be thinking about. Sending you all the aloha I can!
Wendy
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
On the not so good side, he is angry, hateful, ugly, incorrigible, disrespectful - you get the picture
Remember - the kid can't express this stuff to your ex - because of the fear it might drive him away. So they vent it on you, the "safe" parent, the one they trust to stick around.
Irish, Ten weeks isn't that far off and when the time comes, spread your wings and soar!
I agree w/kml, you are the safest person for your son to vent to. That all will change in time, but most importantly, please remember, your son does love you.
Here's to the future!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
My daughter was the same way. Now, 5 years later, she is a gem. She sees ex for what he is and loves her mama to death. It does pass, just continue to follow a good path and serve as an example of power and strength.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Hey IB. Be at peace. He is learning. And he'll be back and better than before.
Better at his age vs. 50 that he learn this and act like this, right?
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
