Quick details: Married for 4 years, together 9 2 young boys (under 5) Seperated 9 months - my wife initiated separation
For the first 5, 6 months of separation, my wife kept asking me to move out, I begged pleased did everything wrong. Found divorce busting, totally changed my life! Way better now than 3 months ago. Given my wife lots of space but maintained in home separation.
Lately she really wants me to move out-she's firm that I go by sunday--but for one week to see what happens she says.
Well I usually would not however, there is some interesting behaviour that make me think one week might be okay.
For about 2 years(since our other son was born) she has always been way more loving of me when we are apart. She texts me nice things, she is very pleasent. However, once I get home her tone changes! She's far less nice, doesn't want to see me. That's why I thought a week away might be okay - maybe she'll miss me a lot and ask me to come back? I believe it's highly possible
However, there are downside risks, and I understand. I know divorce busting advices against moving out and until his point I have steered clear. But she's been pressing more now and she did say the words: 'for one week and then we'll see what happens'
So I need some advice - I'm really trying to save my family and especially my kids. They mean everything to me
ALSO! It's my Wife's birthday on the 13th. Do I buy her something? She bought me nothing 2 months ago for mine.
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Get out and Get a Life (GAL). DETACH.
Believe none of what he or she says and half of what he/she does.
Have NO EXPECTATIONS.
Take care of yourself, breathe, eat, sleep, exercise.
Take the parts of this advice that you need and don't worry if I have repeated something that you have already done.
Here are a few links to threads that will help you immensely:
ALSO! It's my Wife's birthday on the 13th. Do I buy her something? She bought me nothing 2 months ago for mine.
No only no, but hell no.
Work on yourself for you and your kids' sake - not the "wife." Its not about her anymore. Just you. Only you.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
Why a week, and why adamantly by this Sunday? Hopefully I'm just cynical and have read too many stories here, but is it possible she has something planned with someone else that you can't be around for? Tell her it's almost Easter, you need to be here for that with the kids, and you'll think about it.
Why can't she move out for a week, if that's what she wants?
Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)
