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Originally Posted By: cane I have written her about 30 letters since this happened. STOP doing this. Speak with Actions not words. Stop begging, pleading, and bargaining, those thing will not work. Keep posting here.
Shining, If he insists on going to counseling and he asks you to go along, then I would consider doing it...but you will need to really listen and sift through what he's saying in the session to have a better understanding of what is going thru his h
These are my thoughts on counseling. In order for counseling to be effective, one has to be honest and 2) be willing to address the issues. #1 is a huge freaking hurdle for so many because it's easier to play the victim and blame others versus lookin
One thing I am trying to make sense of is the idea of 'slow and steady' yet many folks who have been successful really slammed down the hammer pretty rapidly and hard (lawyers, heading down the D path) and things turned in their favor quickly. I g
Fwiw, Tar, our NC letter is in my thread titled, "Looking up at the mountain ahead," I believe. I'm not on my computer. If someone else is and can easily find it and link it here for Tar, that'd be great. But it was pretty standard. Very
GB this would be our MC we were seeing for a few weeks when things were spiraling downward before February suicide attempt. We went three or four times after that. Then once after separation, before I knew this was MLC. MC continues to see me alon
There's a lot to think about here. Self-identifying as someone who could use AlAnon is kind of scary for me. I'm editing here... interesting how we invent stories about ourselves and it takes a crisis like this to make us see what of those stories i
Hi Rainy; Darned right it's an art form - staying detached. As for W asking you to stay for a coffee, I would suggest to take her up on her offer and be totally happy, talkative and at the same time casual. Absolutely no R talk and no talk bordering
Hey Dawgy - I hope you're doing better. Sometimes I am dubious of the rare hugs and acting nice. I second guess it. Is she doing it because she wants to show me something or just to keep me hanging on? Just giving me enough to keep me close. That is
[/quote] Originally Posted By: raliced Have you and H had any financial discussions at all? Would he be open to some sort of written agreement? We have put together an informal separation agreement, not legally binding, but just between the two
I think that's a tough one. Most of us have probably gotten some legal advice along the way - but the different states have so many different ways of handling things. I see that Florida does not have "Legal Separations"- which might have be
Ok, just throwing it out there. Should I ignore the fact that it is my W Birthday today? If I acknowledge it should it only be in the form of a verbal "Happy Birthday" alone or maybe a Card? If I don't see her should I just chalk it up t
I wish I'd had this site a year ago. My H's "no contact" (ha!) letter was practically a soliloquy of "farewell my love" and included a reply in the same vein. No wonder I ended up where I am. Keep fighting the good fight, Tarhe
I agree w/Georgia, This is his journey and he may very well be thinking out loud and saying what he thinks you want to hear. If he's still deep in crisis, counseling as a couple may not be end up the way you would like it to go. Many times, they sa
Hi Dev, We are in totally different situations, but I as one hurting man to another, I just wanted to extend a big hug. I wish I had experience or advice to share, but I'm on the other side of the coin here. Hang in there, DB
So I have a question that I really could use some input on, please. I consulted with a L today, who explained where I might come out financially, and suggested that I be the one to file sooner rather than later. I can't keep H from wasting marital
I actually see it as a positive step. I think it was a very well job done by both of you. The only comment I have to make is about the following statement: Quote:W wants to be friends. ”I know you told me last year that we can’t be friends but I d
Thank you both I'm sure OM is a rebound who is fun, no drama, no attachments and I am EXTREMELY physically attracted to Sandi - you raise a great point. Why so suddenly did he change his tune. I have and continue to pose this question to H. He tol