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Midlife Crisis
Jump to new posts Re: Questions without answers...will the hurt stop? by I.am.Dmarie @ Yesterday at 05:38 PM

Bond & Snodderly, Thanks for posting, I was feeling so defeated, like a possession he claims, def he's trying to be dominant over me. He feels as if he has no control over his life and maybe this family is the one things that makes him feel sec
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Jump to new posts Re: Crimson.....Holy smokes, I'm piecing, by sandi2 @ Yesterday at 05:33 PM

There have been many LBS's on the board that I felt emotional tugs on my heart b/c of their stitch. There have been a few that I just felt were special (like a son or daughter). Crimson, you are certainly one of those special people who can just ma
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Jump to new posts Trying to keep pushing forward... by Limbowife @ Yesterday at 05:19 PM

My other post was getting rather long so I thought I would start a new thread. Thank you all from the bottom of my heart for all the support on my other thread. I don't know how to link my other thread to this one because my computer skills are not
Midlife Crisis
Jump to new posts Re: own a buz - pt 11 ... taking him off the pedestal by TSquared2 @ Yesterday at 05:18 PM

Maybe this is how you "validate" while setting a boundary: "H, I hear you saying that you want to date other women, correct? Well, that is something that you, as a free human being, can choose to do. I cannot control your choices, how
Midlife Crisis
Jump to new posts Re: own a buz - pt 11 ... taking him off the pedestal by Kaffe Diem @ Yesterday at 05:16 PM

Originally Posted By: waitingformagicI know I have no option here, but saying that I understand and validate his behaviour seems so wrong here. Like I am giving him permission. I will touch on this, specifically. Again, what he thinks is irreleva
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Jump to new posts Re: Becoming PatientMan II - Still En-Route, Post-D by PatientMan @ Yesterday at 05:13 PM

Originally Posted By: SpartanYour sister has some good advice and I really hope you can figure out a way to make that work for you. I understand being super busy (maybe not as much as you have going on ) and old friends being busy with their own li
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Jump to new posts Re: Think wife is having a MLC? by Thumpered @ Yesterday at 05:12 PM

Yes, stopped everything, she doesn't even really get herself very dressed for work anymore. Not that I know of about past depression. But I know the advice she's been getting is from her mom, who she had NO relationship with, even dropped her off at
Midlife Crisis
Jump to new posts Re: own a buz - pt 11 ... taking him off the pedestal by Kaffe Diem @ Yesterday at 05:09 PM

Consistent effort over time = results Your GALing IS helping you take your mind off the subject. As you continue to do this you will continue to feel less "absence" and more "fulfilment". Patience. You can't set a boundary on
Surviving the Big D
Jump to new posts Re: What are you getting/looking for in dates - Part 2 by whatisis @ Yesterday at 05:07 PM

Originally Posted By: Underdog And it's a new one for a woman to say her hobby is sex and why. Geez. No wonder life is hard for the rest of us! Hey, you think it was easy for me? I had to fake I was asleep just so she'd leave me alone...then she
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Jump to new posts Re: Left Behind Husband on the Left Coast II by LeftCoastLBH @ Yesterday at 05:02 PM

Originally Posted By: MrBond Do I believe your M can be saved? Of course it can. Is it going to be easy? Of course not. Once you go back and actually read what was posted, you'll learn and know how to move forward. MrBond, I apologize for my outbur
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Jump to new posts Re: (NA) Re: (NA) My world got turned upside down by Limbowife @ Yesterday at 05:01 PM

Hi ladies. Thanks for checking in on me. Having a rough time right now. Just when I think I am getting a handle on the crying I realize nope, not yet. It has been a very weepy day today. The thoughts of H and JW have settled in my brain and I can't g
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Jump to new posts Re: And again... by 25yearsmlc @ Yesterday at 05:01 PM

instead of focusing on your negative emotions, THINK about what you can DO while they are gone that you would not do if they were there. Watch sports all day, or maybe some horror flicks they hate, and eat over the sink, order pizza and have beers
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Jump to new posts Re: And around and around we go... by waitingformagic @ Yesterday at 04:59 PM

cbt... from where I stand, I'd be happy to be in your shoes. Please see this time with your wife as a gift. I understand it must be soooo hard to watch her grieve another man. I would be insane! Kind of makes you feel like 2nd fiddle huh? Please
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Jump to new posts Re: What are you getting/looking for in dates - Part 2 by Underdog @ Yesterday at 04:58 PM

Wii--The truth is stranger than fiction? I still think you could use it as material... jus' sayin'! And it's a new one for a woman to say her hobby is sex and why. Geez. No wonder life is hard for the rest of us! BA--LOL, I've spent much time in Fa
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Jump to new posts Re: Dont know what to do... by Cianna @ Yesterday at 04:56 PM

Thanks Kaffe.. There's the issue of when the OR is ended... It has to be TOTALLY his idea and desire or he will simply feel manipulated. What's on my side in that regard is she is a known cheater and manipulator. If she holds true to form, he will du
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Jump to new posts Re: And around and around we go... by T1000 @ Yesterday at 04:53 PM

I can relate to a lot of the feelings your having. What you felt yesterday most likely isn't what you feel today and won't be what you will feel tomorrow. Acknowledge how you feel and let it pass. Think back to a few months ago. Would the cbt in Ap
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Jump to new posts Re: (NA) need help by kelela @ Yesterday at 04:53 PM

Thank you thumpered I really needed this; I actually spent most of today outside in my back yard in the nice warm and breezy weather. It was so peaceful not thinking about anything at all; I still have a week left on my vacation do I think as long as
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Jump to new posts Re: No more games- suckerpunch by 25yearsmlc @ Yesterday at 04:49 PM

things that were pressure or pursuit before, are NOT the same now. Your sitch if further along. And you continue to defend what to ME, is clearly wrong actions on your end. I don't want to belabor the point but I know you do. That part of you has n
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Jump to new posts Re: Think wife is having a MLC? by Thumpered @ Yesterday at 04:49 PM

Exactly H61! Its a fence with the sharp pointed ends too! We are still living together, sleep in the same bed,she has never used the word divorce, but at the same time she has no clue of what she wants from minute to minute. I think in her case, the
Midlife Crisis
Jump to new posts Re: own a buz - pt 11 ... taking him off the pedestal by waitingformagic @ Yesterday at 04:48 PM

Ya.. I thought it was mindreading when I typed it. I caught it too. I think journalling may be more my "thing" I got out what I needed to say yesterday without venting at my h. I will put my baggage down and carry less. The odd thing i
Midlife Crisis
Jump to new posts Re: Thought I Was Piecing, Now I'm Detaching III by PowerOfNow @ Yesterday at 04:46 PM

Tomorrow is something big because I am doing my work 25. Going to EE isn't enough work. it was just the tip of the iceberg. It didn't fix me. How am I like this guy. We both have holes in our buckets trying tp patch them with material things or spous
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Jump to new posts Re: Crimson.....Holy smokes, I'm piecing, by ALF213 @ Yesterday at 04:38 PM

A lot of good advice in this thread. It really has me thinking. I've been following along, Crimson. Wishing you the best.
Surviving the Big D
Jump to new posts Re: Life with turtle by whatisis @ Yesterday at 04:36 PM

Now, is it appropriate to ask her to split the cost of Viagra...hypothetically speaking, of course!
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Jump to new posts Re: And around and around we go... by AnotherStander @ Yesterday at 04:35 PM

Originally Posted By: cbtdad Couple nights ago wife said she was depressed all of a sudden. I now know why. She looked at OM other girl FB profile and saw pictures of them together over the weekend. She said she talked to MC about this yesterday in h
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Jump to new posts Re: (NA) Re: (NA) My world got turned upside down by LindaM @ Yesterday at 04:25 PM

Thanks for visiting me, and for your encouragement! Did you write out your GAL list yet Limbo? I' lm going to print mine out so I can cross things off too! PS Did your H pay the mortgage yet? And....if you get thrown in jail we'll take up a collect
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