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He has had behaviour problems for a long time. We now see it was a precursor to this mental illness. Her answer for a long time was to be the mother bear and defend whatever he does or say or feels and be mad at everyone around him. In her view, he
The first series of texts that I send my wife said I could do whatever was needed. I offered to miss the football game. The football game is an annual event with me and my dad. I'm pretty sure offering to miss an annual event with my 80+ year old f
^^^^^oooooohhh.... "Brainwashing".....^^^^^^^ I got accused of that sooooooo much before BD and before I had any clue about MLC. PARANOID BUNCH, AREN'T THEY??? Because no one can actually have a real opinion or belief that is negative
Oh wow, 2S. That is a tough situation. I am a little bit confused - your W no longer lives with you, correct? But her adult son does? If I am understanding that correctly, I am confused as to why you are so cold hearted yet she does not have him
Great job on the boundary setting. It sounds like W was receptive. I know you're aware, but take it slow. And I agree with Nitty, W will probably pull back but then come forward again. Just remember to give her space and not pursue. Enjoy the zoo
Come on, Bob. What if you asked for what you wanted directly, instead of just implying what you wanted (expecting her to read your mind, then thinking she is evil when she doesn't offer you what you haven't asked for). Something like this: "I
This is just my personal opinion here. I agree that mocking her for her religious beliefs was wrong but I see no reason why you'd feel pressured to take on her religious beliefs for yourself for the sake of the marriage. Just be yourself.
Elsa, eyebrows are HUGE when it comes to your face structure. I didn't realize that myself until I had mine done and WHOA! Game changer. I'm happy to see so many women taking care of themselves for themselves. How awesome is that?
Quote:If you move out before, you are showing the judge you don't care about the house and don't care about the kids, the judge sees it as a type of abandonment. The judge says "What is the current situation? H is out of the house and W is takin
Quote:I am unconcerned about her intentionally doing harm. I just can't stomach (right now) the thought of telling them that this is something mutual when in reality, it is not. I had such a visceral emotional reaction when I heard Mr. Gritty was t
That sounds like progress to me, CaliGuy. That sounds good. She listened to what you had to say and didn't just blow you off. She might back off a bit and then come back, but you were pretty clear. You sounded strong without being punishing. And t
Hello all, After my last post about how my WAW approached me and we started talking, I felt great. I was starting to read DR again, we were communicating. The talks weren't going so great, we disagreed about quite a few things but that's ok, I wasn'
I have to admit, my mindset the last few days has been that this is over and there is no hope left, ever. It is still painful inside, but outwardly I am just calmly discussing things with her like who gets the couch, or the entertainment center. I
Now I want to go buy new perfume! My big beauty change post-S is to get my eyebrows waxed. My eyebrows are blonde so I've never really worried too much about maintenance, but I feel so much more put-together now.
Wow, M, I read that all the time...how similar they all are, and scripts, behaviors....CRAZY!!!!! I would disagree, M, that YOU did anything wrong at all.... Please don't think that. This isn't about us and that is clear. You can't control his bad
So W said I didn't have to apologize it was the first day there and she understood. She seems to be trying not to go anywhere this weekend. I'm worried it is part of her plan for this separation. I will see what tomorrow brings.
Card, I am so grateful for your post above for so many reasons. It really feels that you wrote it from the heart. (((hugs))) Let me say that it's a little uncanny that your LL are the same as my H's, your wife's love busters are the same as mine,
That's EXACTY how it was for us during the winter. EXACTLY! I probably should have been on this forum for advice at that point... I was merely a reader/observer. I don't have any advice, because, obviously I did it all wrong. Hmmmm... anyway... I had