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Thanks Loualea - it does help to know it's normal, suppose it's our heads way of processing everything. I'm sorry your going through this pain too, I wish nobody ever had to experience it, it's awful. I do cry, a lot! I'm trying to just allow my emo
Hi Broken It sort of helps to know what you think and feel is normal...even when it is so awful. For me it doesnot help to know that my WAH who Ialways thought was so specila is exactly the same as everyother cheating spouse here. So much the same...
Hey Broken1, I feel your pain. Its an extremely difficult thing to go through, and I wish neither of us had too. It's such a shock when it happens, it's crazy. I lost close to twenty pounds in four days. And didn't sleep a wink. I think it's
So little bit of a set back this evening, WAW was at the house helping this evening. She tried to put the kids to sleep, couldn't, and then started crying, saying kids would be better of without her. I didn't say anything, kind of detached, and le
This is what i am thinking (only thinking) about telling him...if talking to him is a good idea in the first place and if what i am thinking is any good as well: ( if you think it's a good idea to talk to h I don't want to come across as preachy or c
My DBing efforts, as laughable as they may seem to some, appear to be paying off when I got two comments from friends: "Can I tell you something? You are NOT your failed marriages. They don't define you or describe you. You are a loving father.
Hi AmI C so the day my H was telling me that it was finished for him your wife was doing the same thing...weird.. I am grateful I do not have children involved in this. Mine are older, live jn other countries and so I have mot told them. I am intere
@LTH - thanks. I'm trying to do a better job of waiting until I can calmly and rationally review a situation rather than responding in the emotion of the moment. I think it helps me take a step back and see where W is coming from; and when I realiz
Hi Luke you are right.. I do get out..problem is I speak the language so badly I have literally zpent the whole weekend with the dog talking to not one human! . My running group helpz but I am injured at the moment. Get to talk to physio once a w
Last thread: melissa So, by way of update. I texted H (I can't copy the text bc it disappeared for some reason, so this is paraphrasing): H, thanks for your thoughts on the field trip issue. I have thought about what you said and agree with
Quote:I don't see that there's any keeping the peace to be done, he doesn't seem angry. I see it as reasonable adults discussing what's best for their D and coming to middle ground, a win-win. In doing that sometimes you have to give a little. There
Quote:So, that's where we are, lovethehub. This is the story of our marriage; she makes rage-filled, irrational choices, no matter how calm and supportive I am. I hope this scenario explains better what I'm up against! 27 days until dissolution/divo
Also I realise that it was hard for h to go to the party as well because after he left me, he really stopped being invited to a lot of places while I continued to be invited. This party was one of those places (it's an annual party). A lot of people
Thanks bright!!! I am conflicted right now. H arrived on Thursday. He brought all of his stuff in the house except his suitcase. I was going out and when i left ( after the kids had asked him if he is staying here and he said maybe) I said to him
Is the list of things you did wrong in your M your list or your W's list? Quote:During this time she's been saying that it has nothing to do with the OM, but it's because our marriage was broken. I told her that I know we had problems, and I'm cha
BTW, Last June when my W invited me to a BBQ where a guy was going to be that she was infatuated with (but never did anything with) ... she was very nervous, but afterwards she was glad that it could be "normal" as she put it. That we coul
lovethehub - Thank you for your very thoughtful reply and for sharing parts of your own story. I'm not giving up. I'm committed to doing whatever I need to do to give my marriage the best chance of success possible. I'm so grateful to have found t
After more than a year of DB-ing, I've become less anxious about the W and the marriage. I don't know how a person's MLC runs its course, but for my W, she is on the downward slope. She seems no longer depressed; she no longer seems like she wants