Well, I came home from a business trip and the wedding pictures were back up in the bedroom. I could get someone else to check on the dog. But the dog loves her. And I love the dog. Plainly, this is why women should never date separated men.
She also cleaned the house, did the dishes, and the laundry. She said she wanted to help. Some ideas of what to say went through my head. I opted for thank you. I know I probably should have responded differently, but the house looked great and the dog was happy. So, I kept my mouth shut.
And bttrfly, we both know I already say sweet words I shouldn't say from time to time. I was pretty dedicated to DBing for the first eighteen months, but then I figured she's never coming back so why not respond to a few texts and make a few nice comments here and there. In retrospect though, my track record of predicting what is going on in a woman's mind is not that great and I should probably keep my mouth closed.
Spiral, were I in your shoes, all joking aside on the mots doux, I'd tread very carefully. I think I'd also spend some serious thought on what I want because she's definitely paving the way home, for whatever purpose, who knows?
Handing out another STFU smoothie card, just in case you need it. Keep it in your wallet.
Last edited by bttrfly; 01/19/2304:50 PM.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
She also cleaned the house, did the dishes, and the laundry. She said she wanted to help. Some ideas of what to say went through my head. I opted for thank you. I know I probably should have responded differently, but the house looked great and the dog was happy. So, I kept my mouth shut.
Cleaning/dishes/laundry is odd enough but I might be inclined to just appreciate the chores and say "thanks" like you did.
But hanging the wedding photos? Now that you need a psychologist to analyze.
Originally Posted by bttrfly
Originally Posted by LH19
Would you be open to reconciliation?
That's the million dollar question, isn't it?
Spiral, were I in your shoes, all joking aside on the mots doux, I'd tread very carefully. I think I'd also spend some serious thought on what I want because she's definitely paving the way home, for whatever purpose, who knows?
I agree you better dig deep and decide what you truly want. These signs could be nothing - the fogginess of a WS mind - but if she does propose R at some point you best know what you want instead of just reacting.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
I think I'd also spend some serious thought on what I want because she's definitely paving the way home, for whatever purpose, who knows?
Hopefully you have a well defined list of "Non-negotiables". Your PRIVATE list that she will have to come up with to "Win" you back.
From my observation of the posters of the past that started piecing definitely made their spouses work hard before showing any signs of working on repairing the relationship.
Obviously you are now way ahead of her in your personal growth.
I am not following the details of your sitch, but things will be even more complicated if you are with another woman.
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