Yep, I was not surprised at all. And I also am not surprised she said "You wont believe me and you dont want to see me so I guess there's no point. Sorry for asking or telling you that."
Basically that is her telling herself her decision is right, because I am not willing to try. But I know the truth and so does she.
Actually that's not what I read into it, it sounds to me like "I'm lying and I hate that I've been caught out in another lie so I'm going to try and gaslight and guilt-trip you a bit to divert attention from my lie."
Yea, ok. I can def see that now; I meant to also put the "guilt-trip" in my last post. That has been a major MO for her throughout this whole thing. And in the past I would get so worked up, and try to explain myself; and defend myself. But know I can just see it, and it does not effect me at all anymore.
The guilt trip is such a sad card to play, and I am just learning from her that I will never use that in my life in the future.
M:30 W:28 T:9 MR:2.5 NoKids Seperation 1: 9/16-12/16 Move back in: 1/17 BD: 8/15 She moved out: 9/1
Yep, I was not surprised at all. And I also am not surprised she said "You wont believe me and you dont want to see me so I guess there's no point. Sorry for asking or telling you that."
Basically that is her telling herself her decision is right, because I am not willing to try. But I know the truth and so does she.
i am so happy that you see this for what it is... even at the very end she is trying to play you--and you didn't fall for it! i have been thinking about your situation, wondering what was happening... thank you for letting us know... you deserve so much more from your W than these immature games...
Hey art; Im doing good. I went on a family vaca to get away from everything. Court was interesting to say the least. She tried to have a conversation with me, asking if I even thought about having dinner with her when she asked me the night before. And said she wanted to invite me on a trip to Europe...blah blah, she could have still asked me if she really wanted to. I was business like the whole time and told her it was not appropriate to have the conversation at that point in time.
After court I received many texts it was a complete remorseful apology. Little to late huh.
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M:30 W:28 T:9 MR:2.5 NoKids Seperation 1: 9/16-12/16 Move back in: 1/17 BD: 8/15 She moved out: 9/1
She tried to have a conversation with me, asking if I even thought about having dinner with her when she asked me the night before. And said she wanted to invite me on a trip to Europe...blah blah,
she was thinking that that would pull you back in--a last-ditch effort to have control of you by inviting you to Europe...
i know you have heard this many times, and it does not minimize the pain you feel over the dissolution of your very young marriage, but you are young... you will take all that you have learned from this first marriage and make yourself a better-prepared partner... you will not be guided by your Mr. Nice Guy tendencies that turn you into a mate-pleaser... you are kind... you are intelligent... you are not afraid of commitment... you will meet a woman who will recognize her good fortune to know you... to be loved by you... and she will love you... and you will love her... you will have children and a lovely family of your own with a selfless partner who does not manipulate, control and make everything about her...
you have EVERYTHING to look forward to, Chris... honestly--you do...
