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For me, it was a wreck. But things adjusted.


There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
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Glad you are detaching a little KevinIn.....I continue to have waves of not thinking about my W and then thinking about her...waves of sadness and not sadness but they get further and further between. I was a wreck as well when she moved out but I also have adjusted. Hang in there!


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Originally Posted By: hawker
I was a wreck as well when she moved out but I also have adjusted.


I'm hoping to take a trip starting the day her stuff is out and i don’t have the kids. I'm thinking somewhere tropical.


M:39 W:36 - D1:2 D2:6
11/19/16 BD1: ILYBNILWY, EA/PA
Dec/Jan: MC, pursuing, not DBing
1/11/17 BD2: W wants 1 month break
2/1/17: Divorce Remedy. Start DBing
2/17/17 BD3: W - separation to start D process
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Trips can work wonders. I need one, too.


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Originally Posted By: Jeep74
Trips can work wonders. I need one, too.


Maybe I'll take OM's wife. That would be a 180 for sure. Haha.


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11/19/16 BD1: ILYBNILWY, EA/PA
Dec/Jan: MC, pursuing, not DBing
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Maybe I'll take OM's wife. That would be a 180 for sure. Haha.


Bahahahaha. I may or may not have gotten quite drunk with the OM's wife in my case.


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Originally Posted By: Jeep74
I may or may not have gotten quite drunk with the OM's wife in my case.


Awesome! I'm holding off any actual in-person contact with OM's wife. Maybe one day if both our situations end in the big D.


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11/19/16 BD1: ILYBNILWY, EA/PA
Dec/Jan: MC, pursuing, not DBing
1/11/17 BD2: W wants 1 month break
2/1/17: Divorce Remedy. Start DBing
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I may or may not have gotten quite drunk with the OM's wife in my case.


Awesome! I'm holding off any actual in-person contact with OM's wife. Maybe one day if both our situations end in the big D.


She is one of the most fun ladies I've been around in quite some time. We met up to trade some stuff relating to the affair for our lawyers and all. Actually, it was her idea to meet and talk. We've become pretty good friends now and meet for coffee or a drink every now and then. Want to hear something funny? She and my ex sort of favor each other - both mostly Italian, dark hair, dark eyes, olive skin and very attractive. Geesh.


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Im still in a good mood on my way home from work. Seems that i made it two days at work feeling kinda normal. Its about time.

Hopefully i can make it the rest of the night.

High fives for detaching.


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Dec/Jan: MC, pursuing, not DBing
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Hi fives indeed! What is going on during the times you are detaching? Do you think you can continue to do more of what works?


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BD #1Oct 2015-PA between WAH and COW
BD #2 April 2016-WH resumed PA, she broke it off
Jan 2 2017 WH says he wants divorce
April '17-Letting go
2018 D busted
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