Too little too late?

[CRW]

So clearly I am an idiot and should have been listening more closely to those here. Any feedback would be appreciated.

[doodler]

CRW,

I assume that was her message to you; is that correct?

[CRW]

yes, correct

[doodler]

CRW,

My advice, for what it's worth, is to do exactly what she asked. Take a break and let things cool-down. Get out and GAL. Get out and GAL. Get out and GAL. (D@mn echo.)

[CRW]

I just want to say to those here who still have a chance, please listen to what these guys are saying, it can save your marriage. I got here too late. Don't waste your chance.

[CRW]

here is the rest of the conversation:

C - Jesus T, who are you? You sneak around with another guy, you spend 8k on your chest, you send texts like that, and your first born son can't stand being in the the same house as you. This is as happy as you have ever been? Good for you. Seems like you have quite the whole life, full of depth.

T - You know C, there are only two things I want from you....one you can and will eventually give me and one you can't. The first being a divorce the second being the last nine years of my life back.....
Ps: im glad you found your negativity and meanness, the whole positive outlook wasn't your style. Once again confirming my thoughts on never wanting to travel back down that road with you.

C - For some reason you feel you need to tear me down. I get that, and I'm fine with it, but don't confuse my not going negative anymore with weakness.
I've treated you with nothing but kindness the past two months, and will continue to do so in the future. I still feel love towards the mother of my children, I am not ashamed to admit that. I, however, am not nor was I the cause of your unhappiness, and if you think getting this divorce is the permanent cure to your problems, I'm sorry to tell you, it won't last. You can continue with your hurtful and mean comments, it won't break me. I wouldn't trade the last 9 years for anything. I got my kids, and married the girl I loved. I wasn't perfect, but I was good a whole lot more than I was bad.

[CRW]

Any thoughts? Sandi?

[CRW]

I could really use some advice here if anyone has any?

[dream]

Advice on what? Your wife asked you to stop contacting her unless it's about the kids. Yet, you then replied... adding fuel to the fire. I agree with doodler. Let her be and focus on yourself.

What happened prior to her text telling you to leave her alone?

[collin]

CRW,
I don't have any really insightful input to give you. I'm not one of the pros here. I'm just a guy who is empathetic to what you're going through and wishing you the best.

But, I would agree with doodler, maybe break away for a little while. The temperature is high right now, let that cool down. It's like that expression, don't keep on poking the bear, because eventually the bear will poke back.