I know you struggling a lot today. Any GAL activities on the agenda today?
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
Going to a "meet up group" aorund my profession this evening so I don't have to be near the home
Big struggles right now. Have time alone in house with D starting Fri-Sun
_________________________ Me-48 Spouse-WAW 52 Married for 10 years D7 ILYBNILWY 7/15 Suspect EA/PA 12/15 No confirmation/denial She files 1/2016 Working towards the Big D ...still in progress....
I hear you and feel your pain and frustration rich4j. My sitch is similar with WW spewing venom everywhere. Not the same person I knew as late as just a few months ago. Hang in there. Hope things improve for you.
Me:44 W:38 T:10.5 M:7.5 D:3 BD: 7/2015 W moves out of MBR: 9/2015 WW files for D: 2/8/2016
thansk G8r hope your sitch gets better..mine is not
Q for anyone going thru separation or D with Daughters?
It feels strange right now as my STBX is making spending time and doing things with her a bit as a contest...it feels strange.
I am so worried about a daughter wanting to spend more time with her mom which is natural. She is also daddy's girl (in my mind...) but I am losing sleep over things i can't control.
Any advice ???
_________________________ Me-48 Spouse-WAW 52 Married for 10 years D7 ILYBNILWY 7/15 Suspect EA/PA 12/15 No confirmation/denial She files 1/2016 Working towards the Big D ...still in progress....
thansk G8r hope your sitch gets better..mine is not
Q for anyone going thru separation or D with Daughters?
It feels strange right now as my STBX is making spending time and doing things with her a bit as a contest...it feels strange.
I am so worried about a daughter wanting to spend more time with her mom which is natural. She is also daddy's girl (in my mind...) but I am losing sleep over things i can't control.
Any advice ???
It's about recognizing what you can control. It makes me happy when my daughter says she does stuff with mommy, because I want her to have a good relationship with both parents.
Of course it will feel like a contest for now, but just focus on being the best parent you can be.
And remember, it's early days. Things wont stay in this state of chaos forever.
SHE FILE and RECEIVED THE divorce papers today...wow.....what a hit in the gut!
She wants primary custody. Have to consult with L tomorrow as I want to ensure joint. Fun times....ugh
_________________________ Me-48 Spouse-WAW 52 Married for 10 years D7 ILYBNILWY 7/15 Suspect EA/PA 12/15 No confirmation/denial She files 1/2016 Working towards the Big D ...still in progress....
I am having a drink with you right now virtually....to better times.
In business mode big time.....L convo tomorrow.
Man...how real it has gotten with the papers. Makes me want to puke.
_________________________ Me-48 Spouse-WAW 52 Married for 10 years D7 ILYBNILWY 7/15 Suspect EA/PA 12/15 No confirmation/denial She files 1/2016 Working towards the Big D ...still in progress....
Just remember, the physical act of being DIVORCED doesnt really change anything.
Point of fact: XW and her L went into court to file some kind of petition on a Monday. On Thursday, XW asked me about house refinancing stuff, and I said it needed to wait until D was final. Her reply was that it was finalized on the Monday! I actually lived my life for 4 days as a divorcee without even knowing it!
The point is that the legal part of it doesnt really mean anything. It just changes how you report your status to the government.
I understand the pain you are going through today, and I urge you to go easy on yourself. But at the same time, remember that its just a piece of paper.
