By posting regularly and reading other's sitch's you'll find they are almost second nature. Why do you think they only apply to your H, you've used them on your S, who's next in your world?
The lady who owns the horse riding school I go to for lessons, almost weekly pulls me to one side and asks for my input on something in her life, it's sort of embarrassing and uplifting all at the same time, as I am no expert.
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?