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Visited doctors about libido pleased I did it though it was difficult as talked about BD etc

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Very chatty today my heart is breaking

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Originally Posted By: Mr me
Do you think I should instigate the next 'date' time, or let her decide?

We had a really good weekend and spent time together though no discussions of the A, BD or plans for the M were discussed, should I talk about the A or just be happy in our time together and rebuild it that way?

I suppose I know I am trying to mentally rush things rather bide my time.

I'm also SCARED that in a months time she will say nope the magic is there for her and she will go again (I have not mentioned this to W) and I will be back on the precipice looking over the edge.

Help would be appreciated.


Off to bed again by myself, any thoughts?

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I'm also struggling to talk about things in the future for fear of trying to scare her.

Should I talk about the future?

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No do not talk about the future this will back her into a corner

Read the rules

It is hard but you have to try to follow them


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Good you went to doctor. Did they check testosterone level?


It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
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Originally Posted By: sandi2
Good you went to doctor. Did they check testosterone level?



That appointment was one of the hardest (no pun intended) I have had to do in my life, I'm booked in to do full blood tests.

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I have read the rules, but I'd still like to ask W one question:-

Do you want to save the marriage?

Can I should I ask it?

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Really struggling today so want to look at her mobile which I know is a real no no.

Wondering if it would be easier to let her go so I don't get hurt anymore and maybe I can heal....but yet she text me immediately when she completed her run.

I hurt so much I'm alive but not living.

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