In the UK - need help (pt12)

[ATPeace]

If your W wants back in, you will know. It won't be subtle, it will be very clear, sung from the rafters.

V

Not trying to hijack

Is this always how they return sung from the rafters ? Do they not ever comeback slowly ...I was just wondering many waw leave slowly making the decision to leave over sometimes many years of unhappiness

[Vanilla]

Yes, when the decide they want back in, it's usually with enormous energy and deliberation.

V

[Huddy]

Deliberation? Testing the patience, more like!

[Vanilla]

Both Huddy, both!

V

[Huddy]

I have the day off today. The weather is awful, so decided to have a lie in and lounge about. I didn't tell W I was going to be off, so she was surprised when she saw me still in the house when she got up.

W decided to try and start an argument when I got to the kitchen. Managed to avoid being dragged in. I guess this is a temp check. My SD was late for college, so asked me to take her in the car. After telling her she needed to get herself together, she told me that she had arranged this with W. I feel like a taxi driver! Why try an argument then expect me to run everyone around?

I was looking at some cartoons with my D before school on my W's tablet computer when my D stumbled on her search history. In it are links to websites about slimming pills, tummy tucks and how to tell your husband you're having a baby with somebody else! Really confused. Should I challenge this with her?

[roist]

Wow. That must have gotten your head spinning.... the internet history.

Ye are already split up and struggling in the same house. You cannot split up again and from what I understand ye cannot move before house sells. So confronting her cannot bring anything good.

We all look up stuff on internet that may not mean what an onlooker thinks seeing our research. Without dwelling on it, does it seem plausible?

Good luck mate

[NDY]

I have the day off today. The weather is awful, so decided to have a lie in and lounge about. I didn't tell W I was going to be off, so she was surprised when she saw me still in the house when she got up.

W decided to try and start an argument when I got to the kitchen. Managed to avoid being dragged in. I guess this is a temp check. My SD was late for college, so asked me to take her in the car. After telling her she needed to get herself together, she told me that she had arranged this with W. I feel like a taxi driver! Why try an argument then expect me to run everyone around?

I was looking at some cartoons with my D before school on my W's tablet computer when my D stumbled on her search history. In it are links to websites about slimming pills, tummy tucks and how to tell your husband you're having a baby with somebody else! Really confused. Should I challenge this with her?

Wow, wait. Was there a lot about the baby in the history? I mean, it's easy to accidentally click on a link and the cookie will be saved even if you don't read it but if there a numerous links then I'd be thinking about asking.

[Painter]

Your W is 50? Is it likely she would want to risk getting pregnant at that age?

Maybe she is hanging out with other women who are also leaving their husbands, it's not unusual to bond with others in similar situations.

[Vanilla]

More likely she is winding.

V

[Huddy]

Hi Folks

I haven't asked. Sadly, I have been looking at my W's belly (sneekly) all day! Intel from SD, however, reveals that W's friend is having a baby. I don't know anymore than that and the internet history doesn't add anymore to it. I think that's a phew on my part.

NDY - how you doing bud? I came across this by accident as it's a table I don't normally use and my D was messing about with it. I know she spent all morning with this friend as her D is in the same class as my D and she told me 'Mummy has been to see (friend's daughter) today as she wasn't well. Gold dust from a five year old. I could have eaten her up at that point!

Hi Roiste

That set me going like a good 'un, especially when W went out for three hours. This friend is the one who split up with her H in January and then got back together soon after.

Hi Painter

No, I have no ability to have any more children! W has also taken steps to have no more, but, as I don't know what's really going on right now, anything could have happened.

Hi Vanilla

Winding? I've not heard that one before.

Generally, I have been following the DB rules with gusto. I have started wearing aftershave again, have new threads, look confident and have been pleasant to W and having a really good time with the kids. It still hurts so much!