What to do II

[Ben2010]

Here is the link to the first thread. Figured it will be locked soon.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2456744#Post2456744

[Ben2010]

So should I take this call tonight or not MrBond? I know it may not seem like a big deal but I havent spoken to her in a week and now she was a bit upset, but for some reason told me that she would call me back after work tonight.

[MrBond]

If the call is just mean for her to ostracize you, then 'no' you shouldn't talk to her. Especially since you haven't learned any DB techniques yet.

Tell her something came up and you'll have to talk to her later.

[Ben2010]

I dont know if thats what she is planning or not. It just feels like everytime we are on the phone it turns into an argument.

[pilot]

MrBond is right. You need to read the book BEFORE you have any further interaction with your W. This will help prevent making mistakes and digging a deeper hole you have to crawl out of. Put off any contact till you are done reading and UNDERSTANDING what is in the book.

Best of luck!

[MrBond]

"I dont know if thats what she is planning or not. It just feels like everytime we are on the phone it turns into an argument."

Look, you keep mindreading here. If you want to talk to her on the phone, then do it. Don't come here, ask for advice, and then question it.

[Ben2010]

Im not questioning it. I was just stating that I am unsure if she is wanting to get into another argument or not. And of course I "want" to talk to her on the phone. That doesnt mean that I have to though.

[MrBond]

"I was just stating that I am unsure if she is wanting to get into another argument or not. "

It's a pretty good chance that she wants to know what else you talked about and to whom. Let it go.

[Ben2010]

See that is an answer that I can fully be on board with. I didnt even think about that. I figured our argument about that was over and couldnt understand why she would want to call me tonight unless she wanted to talk about something else.

[Ben2010]

Does anyone know of any good threads that can help with detaching?