TTD180; Yes my whole gut feeling is don't tell her, the heart is saying do tell her. The whole email (three of them within a week) is so strange, enough to mess with your head at times. But I won't let it. Also considering the first letter from the solicitor wasn't advised. F, My view is I don't really need to contact or reply to this email. The jet ski is located with me, I certainly won't be dropping it off to her. She is welcome to come pick it up (once legal paperwork is done) and I will help her hitch it to the car etc. Yes my transfer starts at the beginning of Christmas holidays. I would sound like a jerk if I asked her not to email anymore. Duh. With regards to the emails, she is sending her emails via the school email address, so when I reply it goes back to her school email. All emails with the schools can be seen through any of the internet sections of the education department. So that was one of the reasons I wanted to say more along "W, I do not wish to reply to your school email anymore, can you offer another email address".
In some ways I feel these emails are like a last ditch effort by her to get some answers, or that magic reply she wants or needs. I know there is nothing else I can do. In truth the last email, the one above, doesn't even sound like her writing. So I need to also think the friend could be doing some of this.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Does her friend work at the school as well then? I know you've probably mentioned this before, but my memory isn't what it used to be Funny you should say that, when my H designed my business card, I thought this doesn't seem like H - it's too girly! I've got a feeling that his "friend" may have some help in the design.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
TTD180, yes the friend is a teacher at the same school, therefore can easily access the school email.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
The email system can be accessed at home as well, just needs the password. My W used to have all the passwords near the computer, so I presume that hasn't changed. I have also felt that a lot of my texts were not seen by the W, but could have been seen by the friend who then deleted them. Yes, mindreading.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Yes you are right, you are mindreading Let it go I would wait now until you get a letter from the solicitor. As I said before, if she's anything like my H this won't be for a while, lol. I don't know what you'd say in the reply to her email, but definitely wait 48 hours
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
The mindreading stuff has been let go, it is just more discussing a possibility. True, I don't know what I would say in a reply to her email either. I have always thought she wants to divorce on the 5th December, which is 1 year of separation. Somehow I feel she is just wanting to rush through everything leading up to that day. Doesn't matter either way, I am not in control of what she does or doesn't do.
I might have to start a new topic again. Well over the limit.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Just added some more photos to my timeline. Found one of the H as well, though it doesn't really do him justice. Well done for letting this go You're right, you can't control what she says or does unfortunately
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
