Hey Tad! I came across your book on Amazon! Kinda funny I was just sifting through MLC stuff and I was like " hmmm that person kinda sounds familiar!" I'll be downloading the Kindle version.
I'm glad that you told me that it was you on FB. Friend requested accepted!
Thanks for checking out my book. I'm running a sale on them this weekend only. (A little self-promotion without breaking the DB Forum rules.)
Hope you have a great holiday.
Tad
Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13
X just sent S20 a text asking if he would spend Chistmas with her. He told her no. She said that she was sad because it would just be her, S26 and S18. (I assume OM is probably out of town.)Then she said "but this is my last Christmas before I'm married."
My question is: WHAT THE HELL DOES THAT HAVE TO DO WITH ANYTHING?
Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13
Tad, She's trying to lay a guilt trip on your son. Getting married isn't a death sentence and she will still be around next year and I'm sure your sons will be too. Her comment is off the wall and you need to just let it go. You can't analyze her every word and move. LET IT GO!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thank you Snodderly. I thought she was laying a guilt trip on him as well. You're right, I do need to stop tyrying to figure things out.
I had a rough day yesterday. I went to the mall with S20 and his GF. Seeing all of the happy families brought back a lot of memories and just reminded me of everything that X has given up. She has changed her life completely. The only thing that remains is a shell.
I'm not sure, but I think I've been feeling a little anger creep in these past few days....
Tad
Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13
Ug.....and to top it all off, X just dropped off a couple of hundred dollars worth of Christmas presents for our boys. This was the same woman who told me a few weeks ago that her rent added up to 40 dollars more a month than what she was bringing home.
I feel like sh!t. Know what I got our sons for Christmas?
ZERO.
We didn't even have a tree.
Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13
Ug.....and to top it all off, X just dropped off a couple of hundred dollars worth of Christmas presents for our boys. This was the same woman who told me a few weeks ago that her rent added up to 40 dollars more a month than what she was bringing home.
I feel like sh!t. Know what I got our sons for Christmas?
ZERO.
We didn't even have a tree.
TAD,
you made this about you. But think hard...would you REALLY have preferred she not give them anything? If so, what does that mean?
Just b/c you didn't manage to give them anything, isn't it better that she did?
Aren't you at least a little happy for them? I am.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Of course you feel some anger creeping in. It's the holidays, right?
I'm sure, as 25 pointed out, that you probably are at least a little bit happy that your kids have presents, even if from somebody you didn't know. Right?
And c'mon Snodderly, who says marriage isn't a death sentence
Seriously, I get feeling a bit down and some anger this time of year. Go figure right? But let it go. It'll pass shortly, Tad. Much faster than in the past. You are headed for a place where you could care less. But you wouldn't put the effort into caring less. You'll just let it be.
As for your ex. Let her go, Tad. There is nothing there that you would recognize. Nothing that would make you happy. She has a pulse. Leave it at that. If she can be happy, then let that go too. If she can't, let that go as well.
Go live your life. Your boys got a great gift this Christmas. They got to know their father cares for them beyond anything material.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
