From The Twilight Zone

[Drew]

Something is different. Not sure what it is.

It's called life.

[BeingMe]

Detachment?

[AJM]

I know what it is. And it is not numbness

Looking forward to the book.

AJ

[25yearsmlc]

Tad,
You can't go all passive aggressive on your xw. You need to respond to her text and advise her that you are not in a financial position to pick up the tab for your son's IPhone at this time. You may offer up some suggestions to assist her in the payment of the phone, but I would not take on any additional expenses at this time.

I do believe that both of your sons are at an age whereby they could pick up a part time job to help w/the financing of their phones. It's called learning responsibility and if that doesn't work, maybe it's time to re-evaluate your expenses and only keep those that are necessary and important for survival at this time.

"Twilighht zone"? Look, she changed her mind. She made an offer in a moment of well intended but not well thought out motivation, and then realized she could not afford it. it's not insane, it's just reality.

So deal with it. Spare her the nasty attitude. I don't think she's being a bitch here although she should not have offered the Iphone.

If you are saying "you did this" to mean she left YOU, oh please, drop that. It's been 2 years and she already is paying for it literally...

YOUR SONS need to step up...and you need to let it go.

IMO, the OM has no responsibility to pay for your son's phones...frankly at their age, only THEY do...

[SunnyBurst]

Tad,
You can't go all passive aggressive on your xw. You need to respond to her text and advise her that you are not in a financial position to pick up the tab for your son's IPhone at this time. You may offer up some suggestions to assist her in the payment of the phone, but I would not take on any additional expenses at this time.

I do believe that both of your sons are at an age whereby they could pick up a part time job to help w/the financing of their phones. It's called learning responsibility and if that doesn't work, maybe it's time to re-evaluate your expenses and only keep those that are necessary and important for survival at this time.

"Twilighht zone"? Look, she changed her mind. She made an offer in a moment of well intended but not well thought out motivation, and then realized she could not afford it. it's not insane, it's just reality.

So deal with it. Spare her the nasty attitude. I don't think she's being a bitch here although she should not have offered the Iphone.

If you are saying "you did this" to mean she left YOU, oh please, drop that. It's been 2 years and she already is paying for it literally...

YOUR SONS need to step up...and you need to let it go.

IMO, the OM has no responsibility to pay for your son's phones...frankly at their age, only THEY do...

25yearsmlc tells it like it is !!! - very well stated !!

[tadpole1025]

"Twilighht zone"? Look, she changed her mind. She made an offer in a moment of well intended but not well thought out motivation, and then realized she could not afford it. it's not insane, it's just reality.

So deal with it. Spare her the nasty attitude. I don't think she's being a bitch here although she should not have offered the Iphone.

If you are saying "you did this" to mean she left YOU, oh please, drop that. It's been 2 years and she already is paying for it literally...

25, I did spare her the attitude. I did not even respond. As for the Twilight Zone comment, she has told him 6 different things in the last few weeks regarding his cell phone. She told him that she was going to get him a newer version. Then, it switched to a brand new Iphone. Then she said she was going to get him the second to newest version then back to the Iphone again. Now, it is back to "I can't afford it."

Another example happened just yesterday:

In September, she told S17 that she wanted him for Thanksgiving. A few weeks later, she told all of our sons that she wanted to have all of them over. Two weeks ago, she told them that they were "on their own" for Thanksgiving because she was going to be "out of state" with OM. Yesterday, she told S17 that she wants to pick him up on Wednesday night and keep him until Sunday on Thanksgiving weekend. Are they always this flaky?

Tad

[MrBond]

Yes. But what have you planned for Thanksgiving?

[uRworthy]

Who cares if they how flaky they are? That's their problem.

Tad, your sons are old enough to deal with this with their mom. And if they become fed up, then, she'll have to deal with it.

Your job is to stay out of the way of their relationship and let them forge whatever kind they decide.

You keep trying to figure her out. You can't. Impossible.

So, stay out of the phone business.

As far as Thanksgiving. Make your plans. If they include your sons, then, let it be known and that's that.

Tad, there are just some things in life that cannot be explained. Accept it.

She is living her life. Live yours.

[25yearsmlc]

YES^^^^^^^^ to both Bond's reply and this one.

Let it sink in, please.

[tadpole1025]

Okay 25, Snodderly, AJ, Jack, Antonia and any other vets that want to chime in. How do I respond to this text? She is dropping off S17 at my house today and apparently she is sending cupcakes. It reads:

Trying to get an idea as to how many cupcakes to send....I forget if you will eat coconut. I made German chocolate cupcakes. Let me know please.

WTF?????????????????????????????????????????????????????

I received it about an hour ago, but didn't get around to reading until just now...

Confused as Hell.

Tad