I am thinking that she is unsure about going through with the divorce so the sooner she can get it over with, the sooner she doesn't have to worry about second guessing herself. I know that could be wishful thinking, but I need some kind of hope right now.
M 39, W 34 M 15 S 14, S 12, S 9, D 7, D 6 Separated: 7/2/2012 Served: 7/10/2012 Divorced 11/5/2012
NASCAR It's not wishful thinking and quite common actually. Here is what you have to keep in mind while she may be second guessing herself you won't be able to talk, discuss, or debate her into changing her mind. To her everything you say is against her interests and the more you pursue the more she'll run.
Instead like we say around here a lot, be the husband only a fool would leave. So start being the man you want to be, take charge of your life AND your family. Be strong, confident, and independent. Don't tell her why she shouldn't leave, show her through your actions.
I am trying. It has been five days since the last time I tried to have any kind of R talk with W, which is pretty much the longest that I have gone since the process began. I am getting better but it is still hard. I understand about detaching and all of that intellectually but I still struggle with it emotionally. I just have to keep reminding myself that my mind is the one in charge and not my heart.
M 39, W 34 M 15 S 14, S 12, S 9, D 7, D 6 Separated: 7/2/2012 Served: 7/10/2012 Divorced 11/5/2012
I see. I am not planning on it, but I just feel so conflicted at times. Somedays I wonder if just giving her what ever she asks is the best way to go. Anytime I don't agree to something she asks for I feel like I am running the risk of pushing her further away.
M 39, W 34 M 15 S 14, S 12, S 9, D 7, D 6 Separated: 7/2/2012 Served: 7/10/2012 Divorced 11/5/2012
