Buffalo

[Denver_2010]

Update...

So my W didn't reply to my email, but I spoke to her on the telephone this evening. I asked her if she had read it... and joked, had she read the entire email unlike yesterday. She laughed and said that she had. We didn't talk about it anymore, but she seemed giddy during our conversation. I think that it went over well.

W has a singing gig tonight and SS is going to a dance at school. I offered to pick SS up after the dance is over. W may pick him up later or he may spend the night. She's going to call later.

That's it... pretty boring I know. Sorry.

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Denver

[Lotus]

I have a feeling that your wife very much likes all the attention you are giving her. But it bothers me a little that with all the pursuing you are doing, that you have not gotten much past the kiss, and there isn't talk about moving back home. I worry that you might be pursuing too hard. But you know your wife best. So you are the best judge of that.

[Denver_2010]

I've thought about that too Lotus. I know that my W needs to hear this kind of stuff from me, but at the same time, I wonder if I'm not giving her the opportunity to drag some of this out longer than it otherwise would be if I backed off a little or began to ask for some answers from her. I honestly don't know.

[Denver_2010]

Update....

I began the day with a lapse of patience. My SS stayed the night with me last night. I had to be up early to help a friend move this morning. I called my W at 8 to wake her up as she had asked me to do so that she could come pick up SS from my house. When I called, she said that she was really tired. I had just woken up too and responded to her by saying, "well, if I knew where you lived, I could just drop him off..." I knew immediately that I had made a mistake out of impatience. I didn't give W a chance to respond. I kept talking by saying that we could meet at a coffee shop so she could get SS. She agreed and did not remark on my comment about not knowing where she lives.

I spoke to W a couple of times during the day. Nothing to note in these conversations.

W came to my house at 5:30 so that we could go shopping for her friend's birthday present and then head to the birthday party that she had invited me to.

Before heading to the party, we stopped off at a irish pub to have a beer and some dinner. She received a text from OM while we were chatting. She did not cover her cell phone when the text came in and she knew that I saw who it was from. I didn't comment and she didn't either. She took a minute to read the text and then we continued our conversation.

After a few minutes of talking, I asked her if she needed to respond to the text. She said 'no' that it was OM apologizing bc he thought that he had p!ssed her off earlier. W said that she is trying to distance herself from OM and that he is 'grasping as straws' right now and that it is getting on her nerves.

I jokingly asked her if she wanted me to respond to the text for her. She laughed and said no of course. She went on to tell me that OM is upset that she is cutting him from her life. I joked again by telling her that I know of a good website that he could go to for support (referring to this forum)!! She laughed again. We finished dinner and went to the party.

We stopped off at a gas station so W could buy a pack of cigarettes. While she was in the store, I put on Marvin Gaye's 'Let's Get it On' on the stereo... When W opened the door and got into the car she began to crack up laughing when she heard the song playing... she got that I was flirting with her using humor.

W and I had a great time at the birthday party. I was very affectionate towards her the entire evening. At one point, I asked her if my affection was bothering her or if she felt like I was smothering her. She told me that I was not bothering her at all.

W fell asleep as we drove back to my house after the party. After parking, I walked her over to her car ... I kissed her gently a few times and told her that I loved her. She told me that she loved me to, told me that she was glad that I went to the party and thanked me for going.

W called me after she got home. She told me that it is weird that when we go out and she doesn't stay at 'our' home and has to go to 'someplace else' (her home). She then said that she 'supposed' that she could have crashed at our home but that she still feels that she needs to be somewhat closed to me until things are worked out. I told her that I completely understand, that she knows how I feel about it... that I would love for her to stay.

W then said that she wanted me to know that she likes all of the physical affection that I have been showing her. She asked me if I thought that would change after a while. I explained to her that, right now, I miss her like crazy... that everytime that I see her I want to grab onto her and never let her go... that I can't help myself when I am around her. I told her that this probably wouldn't always be the case, but that I would never allow myself to NOT show her how much I love her again. She said that this was nice to hear.

W texted me about 10 minutes after we got off of the phone:

W: "I do miss you. Going to sleep now. Night!"

Me: "That just made my Sunday! My Saturday was already made by getting to spend time with you . good night baby."

W: " "


This was another good night.

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Denver

[Truegritter]

W said that she is trying to distance herself from OM and that he is 'grasping as straws' right now and that it is getting on her nerves.

Now he is the Left Behind.

You see first hand what happens when someone tries too hard.

I think the fact she is getting annoyed may be that she is making her path back to you Denver.

Patience.

If you find yourself trying to make it go faster.

Stop.

And back off.

I know she is responding to your affection and that is GOOD.

Just be conscious not press YOUR agenda.

[Denver_2010]

Thanks Truegritter. Yes, maintaining patience is my biggest hurdle right now. Luckily, outside of my minor blunder yesterday morning, I have been relatively good at hiding my lack of patience from my W.

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Denver

[grr]

hi denver

i think you are so there (where you want to be)

just thinking about my fellow bit

xox

[dbmod]

I love it. Good job, D.

[ninelives]

Hey Denver, sorry to hijack your thread and I have never done this but I am getting anxiety here. Could you please check my thread and give me some advice as we are in similar boats i think.

Congrats on your progress btw. If we survive this I would love to fly out to Denver and have a drink with you and your wife.

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[Lotus]

Nice!