My other thread was quite long so I figured I would begin a new one.
H's mother passed away yesterday morning.
He is not doing very well at all according to the kids, and he appears to be seeking comfort in the kids, calling each child at least twice yesterday and talking all day and into the early evening.
My FIL called me and we talked for awhile and then he asked for H's cell # which I gave him. According to the kids, his dad asked him what he was going to do with his life (response was he did not know), and my FIL asked him if he felt he needed mental illness help and H said no.
H even called me yesterday and we spoke for a few minutes and of course it was focused on his mom.
Other than that, I got laid off on Thursday, found out on Friday that the trial modification is null and void if I do not come up with $5800 to suspend the auction which is to occur tomorrow. Of course I do not have that kind of money and it does nothing except suspend it. We'll probably just have to move into an apt. for now.
I am doing okay....
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
My condolences on the passing of your MIL. Your h will have great difficulty getting it together to attend the funeral. He's been living in la la land a long time and now reality has hit home w/the passing of his mother. I do hope that he and his father can talk at some point.
I'm also sorry to read about your job and your home. You've had far more than your fair share of hardship over the years. I do hope that things will turn around for you very soon. I am keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
He is not going to the funeral as it is back east. It is interesting to watch how he is communicating with the kids.
Thanks for your prayers.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I hope that he doesn't bring the children down into the dark pit with him. Does he have any siblings?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Actually, all of the kids have been telling me for a long time now that since he stopped drinking last summer, he sounds better and better and his thinking is not warped.
He has long talks with them about the Bible, school......they seem to be enjoying the conversations they have had with their dad.
He does have siblings but he has never been much to converse with anyone. He has had no contact with anyone other than OW for the past 5-6 years.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Well, Saturday came and went and H must be back in his deep dark cave. He was to call the kids on Sunday but did not. Oh, well.
Our house was to be auctioned today but we have not heard anything about that.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Could be.....aren't they supposed to notify you right away after the auction? We shall see if the saying, "No news is good news....."
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Did you ever get a certified letter from the bank saying that you had to leave by a certain date??? My daughter,her lanlord didnt pay the mortgage and so they came and served her, giving her a date she had to be out.. If you are to this point with the house...I would start moving asap..... And I thought the auction was after the tenent had moved out??? I am praying for you daily.....Irma
No they do not send certified letters here and you do not have to vacate until a notice is placed on your door. Not even sure if it really went to auction as we did not hear from anyone and that should have happened right away.
Remember, I still have a modification approved on this home which is to begin March 1st.
We'll see.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
