It is sad. I am not well-versed on the holiday thing but agree with the others who have advised you to get it in writing. Maybe you can write down your what your proposal is, give it to your L and have it him send it to stbx for her take on it.
Going to see her tonight, she sounds nice! And if it goes well who knows...
That's all I'm sharing for now.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
K so I saw on somoene else's sitch it was suggested to them that they should try to get in writing a 50/50 deal for now til D goes through because if you offer anything less/more, the judge may be partial to whoever had the most custody time written out.
Not sure if that helps you or not since I"m not aware if you had a written holiday/time agreement w/ your stbx...
My holiday plan is a mess - I saw it was a mess while we were signing the papers, too. I was ubber-emotional, and I think the Ls from both sides were just trying to get it done. Instead of fixing it right there, they pointed out that it also said "as reasonable and flexible with both party's consent."
Stupid move on my part. It is a bone of contention every year. To date, I have given up most holidays so that my kids can wake up in their own beds for Christmas morning (D11's just had her last year believing in Santa, and I wouldn't budge on it).
Just got home, so stoked. It was love at first sight. We had instant chemistry- like she could say so much to me without saying a thing. She has amazing curves and gorgeous smooth skin. When I touched her with my warm hands she felt cold but she instantly gave me a flirtateous vibe as if she was saying 'let's go hot stuff, is that all you got for me'. So I made the move and boy did she get fired up...wow. Well things started getting hot and heavy, she even told me her sweet spot is not where most guys think it is. I said relax- I'm quite skilled and this isn't my first rodeo. It was hard...my body was saying let's go but my heart was saying no. She said if I wanna be with her there's a price I have to pay I'm a genie in a bottle baby you gotta rub me the right way. I asked her why is she talking to me in Christina Aguilera's lyrics? She didn't answer me. That's when I said I gotta take her home with me tonight or else I will probably regret it. So she came home with me.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
Just got home, so stoked. It was love at first sight. We had instant chemistry- like she could say so much to me without saying a thing. She has amazing curves and gorgeous smooth skin. When I touched her with my warm hands she felt cold but she instantly gave me a flirtateous vibe as if she was saying 'let's go hot stuff, is that all you got for me'. So I made the move and boy did she get fired up...wow. Well things started getting hot and heavy, she even told me her sweet spot is not where most guys think it is. I said relax- I'm quite skilled and this isn't my first rodeo. It was hard...my body was saying let's go but my heart was saying no. She said if I wanna be with her there's a price I have to pay I'm a genie in a bottle baby you gotta rub me the right way. I asked her why is she talking to me in Christina Aguilera's lyrics? She didn't answer me. That's when I said I gotta take her home with me tonight or else I will probably regret it. So she came home with me.
Just got home, so stoked. It was love at first sight. We had instant chemistry- like she could say so much to me without saying a thing. She has amazing curves and gorgeous smooth skin. When I touched her with my warm hands she felt cold but she instantly gave me a flirtateous vibe as if she was saying 'let's go hot stuff, is that all you got for me'. So I made the move and boy did she get fired up...wow. Well things started getting hot and heavy, she even told me her sweet spot is not where most guys think it is. I said relax- I'm quite skilled and this isn't my first rodeo. It was hard...my body was saying let's go but my heart was saying no. She said if I wanna be with her there's a price I have to pay I'm a genie in a bottle baby you gotta rub me the right way. I asked her why is she talking to me in Christina Aguilera's lyrics? She didn't answer me. That's when I said I gotta take her home with me tonight or else I will probably regret it. So she came home with me.
jk - looks like a perfect match - bet you'll have many wonderful, exciting moments together!