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Originally Posted By: TrustingFaith
I don't know. I have been handing it this long. I suppose I need to longer. At least he is being more responsible.



Note the positive. Baby steps. Baby steps.

You can do this.



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At least I do feel now that if I needed to say something to reign him in a bit he may actually listen. What he does with it, who knows.

Still hoping that one day he will be working on this WITH me.


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Hey TF,
It has been a while, I just went back a little to catch up on you. The baby steps are definitely happening and it sounds like they are happening often.

I think we get used to the positives steps so much, that we start to expect them and become disappointed when there is a set back or the steps are not happening as fast as we would like.

Hang in there, you are doing great.


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MHL, you are right about the positive steps. When you see enough of them it is hard to not expect them and then when they don't happen . . . my H took a few days off from forward movement it seems but now maybe back on a bit.

I just realized something after a conversation I had with my H a few days ago. The man who for the past couple of years was planning on quitting his job, walking away, never looking back (I was apparently not the only source of his unhappiness) and was so ready to walk in to his boss's office and quit was telling me about plans in the future for work etc. He is thinking ahead and planning ahead rather than saying is walking away. It took a couple of days for it to hit me - I think that seems like a big MLC step forward.


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TF - I see baby steps...that's a good thing...Try not to spook him by making demands.

You are doing great...sit tight smile


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Wow - I have been posting on here for about a year now (but reading awhile before that). What a difference a year makes.

I am thinking baby steps might not be the best term. Turtle steps? Is there anything that moves slower than a turtle?


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Originally Posted By: trustingfaith
Is there anything that moves slower than a turtle?



Yes...a slug... wink



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My banking deposit slips?

Trapt's boat?

Ahhhh....

The stroke of my pen, writing certain checks ; )





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A drunk to a rehab clinic...


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Just wanted to say I've been following for a while and I'm cheering from the sidelines.


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