Happy Bomb-aversary to Me!

[Storm Rider]

Hi TF!

Just stopping by to say hello again!

[trustingfaith]

SR- Thanks for stopping by - always good to see you!:)

[trustingfaith]

Digging deep . . .

[D Money]

Hand me the shovel when you're done.

[cat04]

TF,

Remember you can still vent here.

One step forward, two back...

Sort of how this works sometimes...

[seeking answers]

TF, we're here for you.

[trustingfaith]

Thanks so much! I will be venting I am sure. I am seeing a one step forward but thankfully more like a one step back so I guess that is an improvement. It is even minute to minute. Crazy!!

I guess my frustration that I am TRYING not to let get to me is seeing him really making efforts in other parts of his life to fix/clean up damage from fallout from the MLC(with the kids, finances - yay, etc.) but with ME? Nothing other than baby steps yet. Though some have been maybe more like toddler steps.:) And that honestly is bringing back those insecurities I felt around the time of the bomb.:(

D, I was just at Home Depot - should have looked for a bigger shovel!:)

[Mila]

TF - hang in there...remember that the spouse is the last one they will try to reconnect with. Here is a link for you to look at, I found it helpfull.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=190969&page=1

Patience girl (((hugs)))

[trustingfaith]

Thanks, Mila. That is a great link. In my head, I know that this MLC really has very little to do with me and who I was, that I will be the last to reconnect with, all of that. I can see the gestures he has made toward me gradually over the last few weeks especially as possible signs of reconnections. HOWEVER, when I let my heart get the best of me . . . sigh.

Weather has definitely affected me post-bomb like it never has before in my life, and today is a gray day . . .gotta shake it.:)

[Jack_Three_Beans]

TF,

The built wall comment, really hit me. It is eaxctly what me and my wife talked about. We agreed that we were building walls around ourselves instead of working toward building a wall around US.

yadda yadda yadda pretty flowery words...but true. : )

Still...

Weather has definitely affected me post-bomb like it never has before in my life, and today is a gray day . . .gotta shake it.:)

I hope you do, it woul dbe pretty pathetic if the weather actually made you have a pisspoor day. Stupid clouds! Stupid rain! Stop making me feel all yucky! Hulk mad!

: )

As for the reconnection...

Who do you think the MLC hurts the most? (Besides themself...that is)

The spouse...right?

Don't you think that maybe just maybe...this reconnection with others might be giving them the skills and confidence to try and reconnect with the spouse later?