Same here ACJ. Jealousy is a big part of the MLC, it is somewhat pathological. Their plan to destroy failed and it hurts there sense of control not to mention their ego.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Wow.. you guys are awesome!! What I love about all of this is that we are all moving forward and none are being cruel or even "intentional" to get reactions or anything.
You guys are fantastic! AND so strong!!
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
I am experiencing something in the last week that I have not had to endure thus far in this MLC journey- rage.
My rage.
This is the first time in this crisis I am sooooo angry at him for EVERYTHING.
Prior to this I was just in deep emotional pain, disbelief, shock, etc....
I am struggling with these feelings and fighting the urge to call him or go to his office and just chew him a new butthole.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
This is really tough. I've been there off and on. Don't open your mouth to him until you cool down even if that takes weeks. You'll just be sorry later. You might have to wind up buying some books about anger management and forgiveness. The forgiveness books teach you how to forgive for yourself. Basically so you do not get eaten alive with rage and anger.The "seeing stars" does pass. Then it comes back. Then it passes and so on. Hope you feel better soon.
Thanks rr22. I hate how I feel. I have never been this betrayed before. I am going to try to start reading and meditating on this anger thing. I even find myself fantasizing revenge..
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I've gone way past feeling any emotion for my XH. My councillor once told me that if you hate someone it's good because it means you still have feelings for someone and that love and hate are the opposite ends of the same emotion. So guess that means I no longer love him either.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Well Bon Voyage, my ex departs on his cruise tomorrow with OW. I will have my kids for at least 2 weeks straght without any interuptions from my MLC maniac. I so look forward to this and so do they. It is amazing what makes me happy now.
Wishing all of you a wonderful weekend
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Trusting, Yes, it is very typical of the mlcer to act like he has been, especially the childish comments that he sends on via your children. Since he is a child right now and you are the adult, continue to ignore those comments.
As for his trip, I wonder if he'll get out of the area with all of the bad weather everyone is having today.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
T sometimes I look at my kids how amazing and beautiful they are how their Father abandoned them two innocent children abandoned for his selfish bs I am so grateful that I have the benefit of being with thwm what a gift as for him sad I can also work myself into a rage over his choices then I think he has called in his own hell I do not wish it on him..it is his I let go I have too much to be grateful for no time to waste you are there 2 peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
