snodderly have to say I agree I too fell over when I read his message, I thought it was going to be something serious, but then again on thinking about it, is this ex's way of finding out if daughter does in fact report back to trusting, they are sneaky, I have had it in the past when ex as wanted to know if and how I find things out, and sometimes he has slipped up and expected me to know things I dont know, they are just weird
T I assume this message was delivered via your younger daughter. If so that was a terrible way to treat a 4yr old. he should be ashamed of himself.
My X is suddenly being extremely nice to me on account of the fact that S17 is spending a large amount of time with me. He must be sweating under his collar wondering whether I'm still going to be around to help him and new wifey pay thier new mortgage
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Thanks everyone. This message was so idiotic. He actually had my 15 year old daughter deliver the message. My daughter said, "mom, I think something is wrong with him". I told my daughter that she did not have to deliver these messages to me if she did not want to. She was more concerned about ex's state of mind than anything. I did not ask her to deliver a message back, there is no need to respond to that. No contact it is..... If anything, ex is destroying his relationship with his daughter. He is angry that I will not see or hear him at this time.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
T I've said all along our Xs are very similar. My X has barely spoken to my D19 in virtually the entire 4yrs he has been gone purely b/c she has had the guts to tell him that she doesn't agree with what he has done and that he has treated me badly. On Monday she went to see her new half sister for the first time. Not b/c she wanted to see her dad and OW but b/c she doesn't want the child to grow up not knowing who she is. She said the atmosphere between them was very strained. She didn't see OW at all b/c she had gone to bed as she was tired (it was 10am in the morning but I understand the baby screams all day and most of the night ). D19 was under the impression that this was just a ruse. How weird is that; a first time mother not wanting to be in the room when her daughter is introduced to her half sister. If I were in her shoes (which I would never put myself there in first place) then I would want to show off my baby not sneek away. ON the other hand I'm glad she did vacate the room b/c D19 dislikes her even more than she dislikes her dad.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
ACJ, I am sorry you have to go through this. Do you think OW was not around because of guilt? Embarrassment?
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
acj I cant imagine the shame this new baby will feel as she grows up and either Not being told the truth or half truth about her parents aqnd our spouses the messes they create starting a new family when they have responsibilities toward their first family and kids what a Mess!
T My first thoughts about your ex message was How old is he?? he has regressed and they still blame us MY xh is thousands of miles away and I havnt spoken to him in months I do not miss him--im glad he is gone
I am adjusting and I know he is still blaming me and him anf his wife will continue to blame me until he wakes up if ever which I doubt at this point peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
My ex husband blames me for his debt. That blows my mind. The right hand does not see what the left and is doing.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Oh my ex tries to play psychological warfare with my kids in order to get to me. My d4 has told me many times, "Daddy says if you ever get married to another man he won't be our daddy anymore". Yep. Can we say, what a winner he is???? And btw, he's "engaged" so does that mean I won't be her mother anymore. Ummmmm, I think not.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
). D19 was under the impression that this was just a ruse. How weird is that; a first time mother not wanting to be in the room when her daughter is introduced to her half sister. If I were in her shoes (which I would never put myself there in first place) then I would want to show off my baby not sneek away. ON the other hand I'm glad she did vacate the room b/c D19 dislikes her even more than she dislikes her dad.