My kids are all doing great. My son is home for Christmas and he has been wonderful. My family got together tonight and we had a lot of fun. In the evening the kids went to ex's and will return to me Christmas night. During the gathering, ex texted my daughter and asked her how it was going.
This is my 4th Christmas without ex, every one gets a little better.
God Bless everyone and Merry Christmas.....
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
So happy for you that your son is home! it is wonderful when they come back isn't it??!! Mine leaves tonight to go back to his place.. he has to work tomorrow but has been here and wonderful.
d13 is with her dad.. and as with you -- each year gets better.
Merry Christmas .... wonder what we will be like next year T??!!
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
Well I had a surprising turn of events today. Ex's family celebrates Christmas today. Out of the blue and very unexpectantly, my kids decided they did not want to go. I have been gearing up for this for months. Every year they go off with ex and I feel sad that I am missing out on their joy. They decided that they did not want to leave me. I encouraged them to go, telling them how much everyone wants to see them. They decided to stay home. I am in shock.....
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I have found it really fascinating what my kids will and will not do with H. Like you I encourage them, but they have their own opinions and the last thing I want to do is make them think that their judgement is faulty in some way.
Thanks Grace, for those of you who think that your kids will never see the whole picture and understand who the parent is who is safe, secure, and stable, it does turn around. I am not perfect, but I am not in the throes of self-centeredness.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
My D19 saw the 'bigger picture' way back when. She has tried repeatedly (usually at my request) to put things right between XH and her but you know what every time she does he hurts her even more. So now she doesn't bother with him at all. She has not visited him whilst she has been home, she did not buy him a present (her choice) and is celebrating the fact that her soon to be new sister did not arrive on Christmas Day. It used to bother me terribly that D19 and XH had no relationship as they used to be so close but it is him that has destroyed that not just by his action of leaving the family but the way in which he has treated her since. The last straw for her was when she went to visit D14 at his house. He asked if she had gone to see him and she was honest and said no. The result was that he frog marched her out of his house and told her not to come back unless it was to see him. Consequnetly she has taken him at his word.
I'm now just waiting for my other two children to become mature enough to see how he has manipulated them.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Laying low and holding on to my faith and keeping dark. That about sums up my sitch right now. Ex backing off on seeing the kids. Picks them up occassionally, but for short periods of time.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
