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He knew what she had done and was waiting to see if you were going to confront him about it. Bide your time....you will get your opportunity to share your knowledge w/him.

T, they all act like this when they've been caught w/their hand in the cookie jar and just know that "mom" is going to talk to them about their misbehavior.

Don't worry about his attitude...it sucks and he'll get over it. You continue doing what you've been doing because it's not about you at all.


Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
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Such a good reminder Snodderly.. it isn't about us. So strange really.


M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06
Moved out 3/12/07
D final 7/30/2008
finding myself again


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I agree w/you Snodderly that they see us as parents.


M: 16 years
Bomb 4/07
OW 20s long gone
Divorced 11/09
I remarried New Guy
Cooperative r w/X regarding D

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Mine definitely sees me as his mother.

He hated his mother.

Not a good sign for me.

Ex called me last Friday to ask for tax stuff.

He seemed oh so sad.

Gearing up to be alone for this July 4th weekend.


I hate this Holiday stuff.


Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
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ah thanks for the reminder trusting!! It is the d** holiday. Why don't you jump on airtran and come see me!!! (and your aunt!!)

I am so tired of carrying this.. aren't you?


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D final 7/30/2008
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Imagine how they feel, Cagz......

It has got to be Hell


Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11

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my x must be in the depressed withdrawal phase....and he looks horrible...just for trusting and cagz my timeline is close to yours ...bomb 2005, d oct 2008, still had financial messed up through 3/09--- now done...he is angry and distant, doesnt repsond to any emails which are very few....and acts like I am not alive...oh well leave him with God...they are so off...he did all of this...and why arent they happy thye got what they wanted...so weird

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Grace,

Same here. We are in the same spot. Mine acts a lot like yours. After 25 years of knowing each other I am invisible. I find that amazing.

We give them everything they want, i.e. divorce, OW, freedom, no resposibilities and they are pathetic. What next.

Such a waiting game


Me: 46 H:44
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Married: 20 years
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PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
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01/16/11

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I think in this phase they begin to think
I sense it
they are aware of their choices
the mess they created
and the OW is all they got from it all and she is Not what they thought
maybe they float in and out of denial
it must be such a large dose of reality to take all at once
peace


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bomb 2/07 IDLYA
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Trusting - i think that whenever they come to any thought that could be real they immediately push it out! AND DO whatever they can to stop the thought.. drink, sleep, work, sex..all of it.

It is a waiting game.. just wondering if he will EVER feel teh TRUE affects of what he has done...

It has been such a blessing find you guys here -- our time lines are so very very close.... and knowing you has made me feel like I am not a fool.


M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06
Moved out 3/12/07
D final 7/30/2008
finding myself again


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