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CMNM #1760483 04/30/09 08:53 PM
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No reply yet. I know him. It will take some time. And I am ok with that. Precisely why I sent it. I can wait this time. No expectations, and that is the truth. Matter of fact, I had to run out to my car (in the rain!) to get my phone so I could copy the wording for you here. The old Pam would have been watching that phone like the proverbial pot that never boils....

BND, you have given me a lot to think about. I appreciate your time, patience, and honesty.

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(((((((((hugs))))))))))

That was so very brave of you and I am proud of you.

Have no expectations, as this is all new to both of you.

You are changing the steps of the dance!!!!

You go girl!!!!


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Bold?

In one aspect yes very , and good for you...I ws thinking more like:

Clothes: floor, you: bed, Don't plan on doing anything else for a few hours.



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Well, if it makes you feel better, Jack, I did call yesterday after he had offered me a ride to work (that I declined) to say:

If that ride includes a nooner, I would like to ammend my refusal.



The one thing we have going for this is most certainly this:
He is NOT going to get it anywhere near as good somewhere else as he does here. I am completely confident that he knows this, too. And, that says a lot, since I have little confidence in anything.

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Originally Posted By: Jack_Three_Beans
Bold?

Clothes: floor, you: bed, Don't plan on doing anything else for a few hours.



I will, however, hold onto this one for future use...

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Oh, and one more thing, for my naysayers...

YES, this does change the dance. The dance I have been doing has included not putting myself out there more than he is willing to.

Plain and simple,
I scare him.

It is time to be the safe place.

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Jack,

Get your mind out of the gutter......

It's not always about sex!!

OK it's always about sex,

BUT..........


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BUT you certainly are in a playful mood. : )

She said Bold...
And then she said no VERY bold...

Of course my mind went to sex.



Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis

Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans

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Yes I am in a good mood.

I start a new job on Monday.

And have spent the past few days relaxing in the sunshine.

And today I took D9 for her last test at the Children's Hospital.

And last night I spoke to Pam who was a delightful Woman.

And Matt got kicked off American Idol.

And I found my brand of smokes for $3.35 a pack.

And I ordered pizza for dinner.

I have nothing to complain about!!


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I quit smoking : )

Going out to see the Young Dubliners tonight, going to Nino's for dinner before hand. No kids. : )

Tomorrow going to 'marry' my best friends. Renew their vows.

Congrats on all your good stuff.

except the smoking. :p



Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis

Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans

Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK

TRUST THE PROCESS - Cadet

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