WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 7

[confusedinpa]

Thanks for all the advice and encouragement. I will definitely call the kids tonite.

I got my Ipod touch. I synched it on my computer. I have a question though, it was my wife's account on my computer. So if I change the account, will all the music then be no longer authorized? Not sure if anyone had experience with this when there WAW left.

I'm off to the gym (as well as picking up a case my my Touch).

Thanks

[confusedinpa]

I wound up calling my boys at the time they normally go to bed. My wife had sent me a text as I was dialing to let me know she put the spray that my oldest was looking for in his backback.

When I called, I said "Hi, is this a good time to say goodnite to the boys?" She said yes and handed the phone to my youngest. He was talkative as usual and talked for almost 7 minutes. I talked to my oldest as it was good to hear his voice as well. He only chatted for about 2-3 minutes. They both sounded excited to be coming home. I told them that I missed talking to them yesterday. My oldest said that they had tried to call last nite, but said that I didn't answer. Not sure if my wife just "pretended to" or if it really didn't work. I'm not going to tear myself up about it. I'm just excited to see my boys tomorrow. I know I'll wind up leaving work early to pick them up.

After my oldest was done talking, he handed it to my wife. I hadn't expected it, but she wound up saying good nite. I just said good nite as well. Not much conversation. Is that too dark/dim or is that the appropriate level?

It really hurts/s**ks going dark/dim....

[davidswife]

I think that telling her "goodnight" was the right thing to do. You want to be dim, not rude.

[MrBond]

That's the right level. It gets better over time.

I was a basketcase the first night they were all out of the house for the first time. I looked at my kids' empty rooms and I totally lost it.

But the days get better so hang in there.

[confusedinpa]

Thanks for all the feedback/encouragement.

I've been keeping busy playing with my Ipod Touch and figuring out how to get everything working. I'm going to wind down soon and call it a nite.

My wife sent me a text about how her mom's garage sale is this weekend so she wanted to know when to pick stuff up. I'm torn whether to be here when she does it or take the risk that she's going to be in the house alone to "pillage" at will. I don't think she will but I just hate coming home and finding more stuff missing.

Any thoughts?

[MrBond]

Just tell her you have plans to go out and so to not take anything that hasn't already been designated as items for sale.

Done.

[davidswife]

I agree w/Stuck.

[confusedinpa]

I'm really iritated this morning - maybe mad is the better word for it. I really wish my wife had just completed her move once and done. I really don't want to keep getting dragged into this thing over the weeks. I want to be able to focus on me and the boys and hopefully in the long run building a new relationship with my wife.

I'm thinking that I just ask her what she was planning on taking and moving it all into one of the garage bays so I can tell her she can just pick it up from there without me seeing her. Any thoughts?

[confusedinpa]

We traded some more text/emails this morning as I asked what she was planning on taking. Nothing too controversial.

I told her that I will move the stuff into the garage bay so it won't be so disruptive to the kids when they are sleeping. Part of it was that I figure that when she picked it up, I wouldn't see her as much. The stuff she is selling in the yard sale is "her stuff" that she had bought for her craftroom/jewelry making stuff. There was a couple of things that she wanted to sell that I said I would like and she said no problem.

I tried to get off the phone right after that but then she asked how my visit with my mom and aunt went. I said it went well, we went out for a nice dinner and some shopping.

I tried to end the call again, but then she asked about a trip at the end of May that I had mentioned to her that I was going to take with the kids. When I first brought it up, she said that she wasn't going to go. I told her that I was still planning on going and she was welcome to come and I left it at that.

She sounded sad/soft. No hurt/anger that she had on occassion. I almost asked her if she wanted to get together for lunch but I thought that would still be too early.

Finally I was able to say goodbye.

I tried to be nice and friendly, but hopefully I wasn't too cold.

Oddly, I still don't really miss her. Perhaps it because I'm still frustrated, sad, bitter, angry so I can't miss her when I feel that way. Who knows. I hope she misses me soon.

I can't wait to see my kids when I pick them up!

[confusedinpa]

I really need to just get away from my phone/emails. Unfortunately I can't since it's coming through my work phone/email

My wife has text/emailed me a few more times. I hadn't replied. Just mostly tactical stuff. It hurts when I hear from her. Maybe I need to be careful what I ask for as I may actually get it. I could be here complaining about never hearing from her.

This s**ks

I'm just venting but it really does.....