Saving Military Marriage - 3

[jaguilar]

That's a tough one. If it was me, I wouldn't pick them up. Did he give any reason as to why he would want to speak to a C? He must be thinking about going if not he wouldn't have mentioned it.

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

"I will pick them up when I am emotionally ready to do it."

Little does he know that that readiness may not happen until after you deploy for Iraq!

Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~
SMW

[FitChik]

Yeah, I don't want to pick them up :-).

I asked him to talk with my C. He has been giving me a wishy washy answer for a month now. I thought it could be good news since he asked for his info.... But I have yet to hear a definite Yes, I will talk with him from my H.

[FitChik]

Very true.

I had a "divine intervention" this afternoon. I met this funny chaplain while out at training last month who I had never met before. Well he comes in today to see me in clinic for lab work and says he is fasting (at 2:00 in the afternoon) for his lab work. I told him that I was fasting also for religious reasons. And he proceeded to ask me for what and I told him my story. I told him I was fasting for 40 days for my H and our M. He wrote down my prayer requests and prayed with me. If that's not confirmation I don't know what is :-)

[jaguilar]

I'm a big believer in signs. But even though I don't want to admit it, sometimes the signs may be making us stronger for what we want the least.

A friend told me, what is the worst thing that could happen between you and your wife during this separation. I told her the worst thing that could happen would be that she fell in love with someone else. Then she asked me what could be the best thing to happen, I told her the best thing would be if she came back home.

It's tough but we have to prepare ourselves for both the best and worst case scenarios. I sometimes can't do that but I try every day. Because we may never know when we'll get what we want and we may be surprised on how we react.

Stay strong and pray...

[FitChik]

Morning everyone.

I didn't sleep well last night.... Woke up about 3am with my heart pounding and couldn't get back to sleep. I kept thinking about our sitch. I tried so many diff't technique to fall back asleep and distract my mind but it just wasn't happening. So I got up and did some reading. I might as well be productive with all that extra time!

Hope y'all have a good day.

[jaguilar]

Yea, that's me too. I go to bed at 1AM and wake up bright eyed at 4AM. That's when I started excercising more and spending lots of time at work. I do sleep a little better now.

You're gonna be alright.

[FitChik]

Nothing much happening today. My H and I both exchanged friendly e-mails today. I think he is trying a diff't approach to the D papers... as he asked very nicely and said it would help him out a lot. Haha! I bet it would buddy :-). I have asked God to put it on my heart when to pick them up and I will know when the time is right.

I am just enjoying being back at work and busy again. Still planning how I want to spend my last few months before I deploy. I talked with my best girlfriend and we might be making a trip to Vegas this summer! He is married with 2 kids - so she jumped at the chance to get away.

[jaguilar]

Maybe you should avoid emailing him. Give him some time to think his actions through. And this will give you some time to think things through too.

Make that trip to Vegas, break out the little black dress and hit the strip! You deserve it.

And I don't know if I told you this but Thank you for everything that you do to protect and serve our country.

I always ask my kids if they want to see a REAL SUPER HERO and they yes; and I'll point to the men and women in uniform.

Go to Vegas and always bet on black and don't forget to double down.

[K4D]

Sounds like things are going well for you FitChik. Thats good. Glad to hear. I agree with jaguilar. Bet on black. Seems to work.

Do you play poker also? Thats one of my favorite games. I used to play with the navy guys all the time when I lived in Jacksonville, FL. Haven't really been able to get enough people to play in Dallas.

Kevin