Mrs. H, Everything in the home is joint, unless it was a gift and specifically given to you or JA. The ladders...one for him and one for you. The same goes for anything else that was purchased after the two of you were married.
Well, I'm not going to say let's celebrate because it wasn't what you had hoped for, but I will say this, now, your new life will begin and you will become stronger and he will not be able to bully you any longer. You have absolutely nothing to worry about w/him now. His threats will become idle chatter in time.
I do hope you are okay.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Actually, according to my lawyer what is left is mine. Only the stuff that JA requested and I agreed to is his. I guess it's different in NY?
No Snodderly, divorce isn't what I originally hoped for, but over the last few months I have come to welcome it. I hated it dragging over my head all the time, and I am relieved the court process is over.
So I am celebrating the birth of my new life. I am celebrating the fact that I survived this mess when in the beginning I thought I just wanted to die.
Their is life after divorce and I am looking forward to what it has to bring.
I am ok, I promise. I haven't even shed a tear over this. I don't even feel any pain in my heart either. In a way I kind of feel like I was set free.
Mrs. H, What a classy lady! Life after divorce takes on a whole new meaning once the ink has dried on the dotted line. Now, you will begin to see the light of day and come to realize that the huge weight you've been carrying around for such a long time will begin to lift a bit. You can now focus on your schooling, boys and the possiblity of moving at some point.
Mrs. H, never for one minute doubt that you didn't try to save your marriage. You did everything humanly possible to save it. Your xh will someday regret what he's done and he's going to find that the road paved in gold bricks to Oz will eventually tarnish and that fun life he thinks he's got and will have will be nothing more than a routine and pain in the rear.
You, on the other hand, will soar. You will see the world in a whole new light. Doors will open up to you and you will begin to smile once again and believe me, people will be there to assist you any way that they can. So, Mrs. H, spread your wings and fly. You are a success in your own right.
Hugs to you and your boys. Spring is right around the corner, new life, new beginnings.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Mrs. H, I am sorry about your divorce. But, I am so thrilled with your positive attitude....SO VERY proud of you!! I know that the divorce was not what you wanted; but, now you can move FORWARD with your life! And, you seem to be doing that quite well. Always look ahead and trust in yourself!
Like me, you will slowly see your ex self destruct into oblivion.
Like me, you will see a miserable ex.
Just be prepared for his fall.
Keep growing and doing what is right.
You will be rewarded beyond your wildest dreams.
God will protect you and be your "husband for the season".
I am so thankful and grateful for what God has done in my life since my divorce.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Ms. H, I couldn't have said it any better than Trusting. Now that you can step back and view the world from the other side, you will begin to see your xh self destruct. He will still be very unhappy w/his life and you know what? He has no one to blame but himself.
Trusting, A very true posting. Time is on our side!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
