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Thank you MWG & Glam, you guys can just lift my spirits & make me feel better. You are always here for me, thank you so much!!

I'm doing my best to turn it over to God & as you know that is hard, it's our human nature I guess. I like what you said GG, walk by faith & not by sight. God can work miracles!!

Today I washed the vinyl siding that my Dad & I put up. I had some handymen come by to give me a quote on some stuff I needed doing that I can't do myself. Anyway they saw the vinyl siding & like it, I started laughing & told them that my Dad & I had done it. They couldn't believe it, they said it looked professional. That made me feel good!!! My H would be very surprised at what all I've done since he has been gone. Oh yes, last month my electric bill was 280.00 after having the attic insulated, my electric bill this month was 68.00!! Amazing!!! I hope they didn't read it wrong or something, it does make you wonder!! Of course it has not been quite as hot so who knows, but we have never had an electric bill that low since we have lived here.

This Saturday will be a year since he hit me with the bomb!

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I know what you mean about the elec. bills. Ours was $228 this month!! We have a small house - 1100 sf! S17 turns it down to 69 overnight and I wake up freezing and with a sore throat the following morning.


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H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
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WOW! I couldn't stand it at 69!! I would be sick too. My house is almost 2000sf but it is old, it was built in 1956 so it was well built, but it sure did need that insulation, I think it has helped.

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Our electrical bill was only $46 this past month. Now that I think about it. We replaced the dryer and it went down about $10 per month. We have no AC but h said we will put it in next summer. Hopefully he will be here to enjoy it!

It's weird NLT as I was sitting hear typing the word FAITH came to mind for you. Hopefully that is a message that God wanted you to hear and that is why I put that on your thread.


Me 50
H 42
S 22
S 9
D 7
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H moved out 8/2006
H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks
H moved home 5/2011 for good

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$46???? What I would give to have that.

Our a/c runs from about April thru mid-November. Honestly!!!

We really do not run the heat except in December and January late at night when it gets down into the 20's and 30's outside.


The Bomb: 08/05
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H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
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WOW! $46, I've never had one that low before.

That is weird that word "faith" came to mind! I do hope that was a message from God!!

I sometimes get discourage & think about this past year & all the things H did & said to me but I'm trying to stop thinking when I first start. But, in my heart I don't feel this is over even tho he is M to OW. I could be so wrong!!!! I hope I'm not.

You know a few years ago this older man we knew lost his wife, she died with a lung disease. Anyway, he was so lonesome & lost without her, he met another woman & they were the same religion & even had stayed in each others homes when they were both M to other people, her H had died of cancer. Anyway, they M less than a year after his wife died, his D was very upset about it & wouldn't go to the wedding. But, finally I'm getting to my point, my H thought it was terrible for him to M again so quickly, it was about 10 months after his W died. My H didn't wait but about 3 months after our D before he M???? Plus I think I've told you before, he tried to talk a friend of ours out of M a woman who had been M 3 times, he thought that was awful! Look what he has done!!!!

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I'm rather sad today. One year ago I thought everything was fine between us, we even went out for dinner that night. He had talked to a lawyer that day & I didn't have a clue! The next night he told me he wanted a D.

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Did anyone read Charlyne Cares today? I just read it & cried the whole time!!!! It really hit home to me since my ex is M again.

I totally believe my H has been brain washed b/c he just wouldn't go for someone like her & to do this so quickly.

I just have to pray harder!!!

Tonight is really hard!!!!

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Yes, I read the newsletter very early each morning.

Hang in there--it is a day by day situation.


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I can always count on you to be here for me!!!! I'm trying very hard to stay strong. This is a very hard weekend for me. In 1994 my brother died on Sept. 3rd & was buried on my Mom's birthday, Sept. 5th. Then of all times, my H told me on Sept. 6th that he wanted a D. So you see why I'm having such a hard time!!!

To show you the strength of my Mom, she was really upset when he died & she knew he would be buried on her b'day. She made the comment right after he died that she never thought it would happen on her b'day. My brother was CP & lived to be almost 36 years old & my parents cared for him at home, he was totally helpless. He was a happy person tho. Anyway, later on in the day my Mom said to me: "I guess this is God's birthday gift to me that I know he is all right now."

Just thought I would share that. I wish I could have the strenght of my Mom.

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