New thread- not sure i want to go to peiceing bc i really am comfy here with you guys- but impretty sure impioecing!
Julia- to answer your question about stages they are stagew 1) diffuse begative emotions stage 2) fridnship stage 3) romance stage 4) reconciliation/ planning for future/ renewal of vows
i can add more detail later...as the stages are more detailed than this...Jody really outlined a lot for me.
im off to my friends house for a few days...
Be good all of you! PMA! xo xo P
Pisces M 31 H 32 M 7 yrs S 5/10 Beginning Contact! Vibes Hot Tub Cheese
Have a great trip. Do what feels comfortable to you. I had the same thoughts. I actually read some of the piecing threads and some of the ones I read seemed to be worse off then the sep ones....just an observation. Besides I liked how the sep forum made me feel like there was always work to be done.
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
SO happy for you! Of course there is still hard work to be done, but it's the good kind of work, the work that will make you smile :).
Please enjoy your time with your friend.
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
it was a great trip- my friend is amazing and has a wonderful marriage..so we always love taking about relationships til we are blue in the face! she has 3 kiddos and it was so much fun (and crazy!)..
so H and I communicated a little by text-i said i made it safe , etc. he is friends with her H too ...
on the way home we talked for a bit and it was nice and he said you ant to go in the hot tub when i get home?
ok- he stayed at hour house for the days i was gone and baby-sat our doggie
of course i said yes- he said ok if you are awake - im going in bc my legs are sore (from a huge run)- i said HECK yes im coming in mister
i forgot to wear my bathing suit
so we just caught up on everything...he stayed the night in the guest room and i asked if he wanted to sleep alone or if he wanted me to join him- he said you can come stay with me....so we cuddled and slept (no funny business yet!)..first time he stayed here with me though!
we woke up today and i cooked him breakfast and then he left to go on a long road bike ride...
so i feel we are back to normal...he said he wasnt sure what he was doing later and i said ok- so call me...
he is slowly leaving clothes here and his motorcycle is here too...
yay!
Pisces M 31 H 32 M 7 yrs S 5/10 Beginning Contact! Vibes Hot Tub Cheese
Yay!!! I want to jump up and down for you, but I know things need to move slowly and we can't get overly excited...
That is really monumental that you slept in the same bed together. To be honest I think cuddling says more than sex at this stage.
Leaving his clothes there is also a very good sign. Sounds like yu have a lot to feel good about.
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
