Thanks SMW.....by the way I have been following your sitch and am EXTREMELY happy with recent developments! I hope thing continue to go well for you guys.
J210
Thanks John!
Fingers are crossed, making typing incredibly difficult!
SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
I'm back. Be positive. Focus on being that way in front of her. We have seen before that when you are strong, confident, independent and POSTIVE she gets the hots for you.
I remember probably 6 weeks ago or so. You kissed your W, in the kitchen I think. Whatever it was, she said she had to go, her heart was racing!?! Wasn't it something like that?
So you CAN make her heart go "boom boom". It just isn't going to feel that way all the time.
I am in a similar spot as you, just several weeks behind. H and I have been almost piecing for about 3 1/2 weeks. He is here every night, will hold my hand, spend time with me, and I am sure he feels that is great progress. But we have NO hanky panky whatsoever, kisses but with lips closed (no big kisses), etc.
I, like you, want the whole package back. I want that honeymoon period of being lovey-dovey. I want a return for my investment too.
Sorry if I am hijacking. I am trying to say that I feel some of what you are feeling. I suppose it is typical in piecing. Because we weren't the ones who wanted it to end in the first place, we are just ready for things to get good again and stay that way. It must be a much longer process for them...
BBJ, you can hijack anytime...Yes I remember the heart racing incident....now i have to figure out how to get back there. That happened a few weeks after I moved out. We never stopped loving / wanting them in our lives....they were ready to end it all....i guess it takes a little while to get them all the way back. I have to admit that this is the hardest thing I have done so far in my life. Maybe you should try my two weeks no pressure (etc.) strategy. I will let you know how it goes.
Being still is my weak spot, John, as you already know. It is harder for me to be still than it is for you to be positive .
But I will do my best to take a "wait and see" approach on the nudge nudge stuff. Hope you continue moving forward. I just read on another post that even when it feels like two steps forward, one step back, you are making progress....
bbj, that one stung ;-).....i was not expecting that little blow below the belt from you...from Woog or one of the other guys.... maybe even K...but not from you. Ago K, I try to incorporate some spice (strong / independant / positive / confident / energy) to my 2 wk. no pressure strategy and see if we can't get some "A" (amore) in return!
John, Flirt with her as if you are trying to seduce her but DON'T take it further, let her make the move. Tease her if you can... I know that works. I know it may sound simplified but what can I say, these are the things that work for me... K
Didn't mean for it to be a blow to you, I was picking on me! You know that staying the course is nearly impossible for me, I want more more more!
Oh, and on K's thread, I didn't mean for olives to be used in a personal way. I just read the word Kalamata in the recipe and it made me think of the only Greek person I know...
Go ahead and add that spice to your plan, it will have great results I just know it!
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