This is normal....you see improvements, you understand the DB principals, you just want to hurry up and finish the project in order to enjoy it. It is kind of like building a model airplane....you have to let the glue and paint dry occassionally to ensure the end product is everythign you hoped it would be.
OMG TD--I LOVE this analogy!!
Neil, I lurk on your threads and follow always, but do not post too often. I did not remember reading your letter so went back to re-read it. It is good stuff and allowed you to really come to grips with who you are and how you got to this point. I am also thinking it opened your eyes up to the way forward. Good job!
I understand the frustrations and you have some great advisors chiming in on your thread--people who are way more equipped to help than I am. I am praying for you and continue to see the growth and change that is occuring. Keep on keeping on. You will reach the brass ring.
SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
you took those words right from my mind..."let's put this foolishness behind us and have a better life now"
I remember there was a time early in my sep when I could see my W having a very hard time with it.....I almost said this....I am very glad I didn't....probably would have backfired big time (would have been pressuring and controlling......she needed to feel the pain and she knew that she needed to feel it too).
Remember when building model airplanes.....don't sniff the glue!
Hope you have a great day today!
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
i have something i wanted to share with you all....
it's a quote from Springsteen.
it applies to ALL of us...no matter what our sitch...
from "Girls in Their Summer Clothes"
"She went away, she cut me like a knife Hello Beautiful thing, maybe you could save my life In just a glance, down here on magic street Love's a fool's dance... I ain't got much sense, but I still got my feet..."
We all have our feet.
Let's dance.
ME:32 WAW:31 D #1: 3.5 D #2: 2 Together: 13 M:6 Bomb Dropped: 2/15/08 Sep legally: 6/18/08
"Tommorrow there'll be sunshine, and all this darkness past..." -Bruce Springsteen Land of Hope and Dreams
my d3.5 said..."I wanna stay with daddy" and looked like she was going to cry....
breaks my heart.
after they left, i cried.
i hate doing the kid exchange....
wtf...
I agree Neil....it bites. Look at the positive, your kids had a great time with you...your W definitely notices this. As sad as it is I am sure it breaks your W' heart to hear this as much as it breaks yours.
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
(((NEil)))) sorry bud....that must really be hard - but i was just going to say how much a step it was that she asked YOU about your soccer game- ican recall a time when this wasnt even a remote possibilty that she would ask about your stuff- baby steps...
and her saying anything about an article is just her way of trying to make sense of the CURRENT situation with you and your kids- i would not read into it for the future...she is just traying to patch up the current pain you are all feeling.
have you thought about counseling for your kids or are they already going? this can be quite hard on them ( i know you know this)...
the springsteen song is DEEP...
i like "Don't Stop Believen'"
Pisces M 31 H 32 M 7 yrs S 5/10 Beginning Contact! Vibes Hot Tub Cheese
Always remember that she is convinced that she is doing the right thing. She KNOWS she is.
Problem is...she doesn't know that she is WRONG. You have all of us and a lot of knowledge on your side.
You are taking baby steps to make a better life and she is sitting and spinning. She is going to try to throw things at you to test your resolve in the changes you've made. Don't let that mud stain the beautiful new suit you've put on.
Me: 30 W: 27 Married: 9/2007 ILUBNILWU: 1/2008 W moved out 5/24/2008 W suicide 8/25/2009
