They ALL take time to come around. She is peeking into the tent. Let her peek. Don't want to scare her off.
ALSO - keep in mind she may get spooked for some other reason. This would not be a surprise. Prepare yourself for it! If it happens, don't despair! Just think how far you have come. She may need a break. Don't over-think it.
Patience! Steady now! Stay the course! Keep positive! Keep those changes up!
Woo hoo!!!!!
This is exactly what happened today. SPM, you can read the future! I'm not worried, just a minor setback. She sure dialed me in tonight!
Back to being The Rock, with the occasional light hearted phone call or email.
Minkerman, this is great. I just caught up on your last couple of weeks and good job! Congratulations for staying the course, doing what's been working and -- most importantly -- knowing what doesn't work and having the strength to not go there anymore.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09
Mink - I am in a similar situation, but I have not pushed.
The little bunny has retreated back into the hole to think things through a bit. That's cool.
I have had limited contact with W since Sunday, just some text messaging. She texted me yesterday to re-schedule dinner from last night (Tues) to tonight (Weds). My texts back.. "sure," or "no problem." I then execute the GAL playback - called some buds, went out for a nice dinner, played some cards and smoked a cigar. W called during dinner and I did not pick up. She had our D leave a message, but I really felt that she was checking up on me.
Piecing is a bitch. You want to just say... we are in love, we have a great life, let's put this bullshit behind us. Unfortunately we are "wired" differently than our spouses. We must march at their pace or we risk heading back to STAGE 1.
This is just a lull, right it out. You need to really give her some space, let her make the next move.
Me: 54 Her: 50 and sexy as hell M: 32yrs T: 34yrs Bomb: Sept 26-07 "lost our emotional connection" Bomb 2: Dec 25-07 she's "not feeling desire" She asked if she could come home Apr 26-08! Everything's GREAT!
