How would you have known that???? YES, I have read that book!
Weird!
Yes, I am in for the long haul, and W knows this and feels comforted by it. A few days back, she said "you are standing guard on our marriage". I said "yes hon, I am a rock". She smiled and said "that's good".
I am trying to pick up on the subtle clues she is leaving, as to what she thinks is important. My theory is that she will communicate these needs, and not communicate things that, to her, are not important.
I am, in a non-obvious way, hanging on her every word.
Another positive step: As of 3 days ago, on MSN chat she is calling me by one of her pet names for me.
W just called...asked if it was Ok to come over and wash her car. I said honey, this is your house too...you don't have to ask! "Well, I just thought....." she said.
Then she suggested we get lunch..."Sounds great" says I.
She didn't sound too cheerful this morning - she paused at the end of every sentence, as if she expected me to say something. I hope it's not going to be one of "those" days.
I know, I'm overthinking. But wish me luck anyway.
I'll post later.
Me: 54 Her: 50 and sexy as hell M: 32yrs T: 34yrs Bomb: Sept 26-07 "lost our emotional connection" Bomb 2: Dec 25-07 she's "not feeling desire" She asked if she could come home Apr 26-08! Everything's GREAT!
We had a SPECTACULAR day. Never did wash her car. Talked and talked and talked some more. Went out to our neighborhood pub for lunch, sat in the early spring sunshine, came back to our place, she had a nap, I woke her up, we ML, went out for dinner later, then I dropped her off about an hour ago.
She texted me on the way home telling me how much she "enjoyed our day".
She told me she would probably start moving her stuff back here about March 15.
I can see light at the end of the tunnel!!!!! This is so awesome, I can't believe it!!!
Me: 54 Her: 50 and sexy as hell M: 32yrs T: 34yrs Bomb: Sept 26-07 "lost our emotional connection" Bomb 2: Dec 25-07 she's "not feeling desire" She asked if she could come home Apr 26-08! Everything's GREAT!
Mink, you are the ROCK. Be the Rock, man. Be the rock.
Look, I don't want to be the cloud on your silver lining. But sometimes I can't help it. No seriously, sometimes they pull back after getting close. If this happens, will you worry? or will you be the rock? If the wind whips up and the waves come crashing down, what does the rock do?
Be the rock.
M 43 S14 S13 D11 D7 Divorce final: Jan 2009 Making it up as I go....
