OK, I almost didn't post because of the Lindsay Lohan comment. Eesh. Though, as I type that I recall listening to one of those 'genre' of singers with my daughter and thinking that the lyrics weren't have bad. If you're aware of your hypocracy, are you still a hypocrit?
Anyway, GD, I totally sympathize with your anger. I feel it towards my W right now. We are 9 hours away from mediation to begin the legal ending of our marriage and I know that she hasn't done everything in her power to save the marriage. She's even said so. She's just done. Walking away. Maybe I can bring her back. Don't know. Going to do the whole friend and be there for her thing because I want to and it's the right thing to do, but, really, if she's a person who can walk away from this without giving it 100% committment or effort to see if it could be saved, I'm better off without her. Because that's not the person I thought I had married.
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
You DID do all you could do and continuing w/ your changes is still doing all that you can do, even if it is just for you and your kids now. Your angry feelings right now are completely understandable and the great thing is that you know how to handle and work through these feelings now.
WTG on that tattoo! I am glad you are happy w/ it.
CVA a pisces too! Another reason you should have come to Orlando.
Going to do the whole friend and be there for her thing because I want to and it's the right thing to do, but, really, if she's a person who can walk away from this without giving it 100% committment or effort to see if it could be saved, I'm better off without her. Because that's not the person I thought I had married.
Good point, Heim. There's still time for her to change her mind though. I feel the same way as you though in this regard. I'm not sure if my W would admit what your W admitted, but I'm sure she realizes she gave up prematurely too. Good luck with mediation. Be strong, friendly, thoughtful, etc, and above all take your time thinking things through with regard to what W says she wants. Make sure you don't just give give give if it isn't reasonable. If you have a disagreement, be cool, calm, and collected about how you address it. And just like in boxing: protect yourself at all times! .
Thanks, GD. Mediation should be fairly straightforward, the biggest hurdle is how we're going to agree on who can move where/when because we want joint custody. Other than that 50/50 split of assets after we buy some basic furniture (primarily a bed) for me. We'll also go joint on bday parties, kids expenses (clothes, school, etc.). Because neither one of us wants to hurt the other, I don't feel the need to protect myself. I count myself lucky on that. Also gives me hope for the coming months. That and she's not considering dating (yippee!).
I stand by my original contention. Anything with needles = bad.
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
I stand by my original contention. Anything with needles = bad.
Oh, come on Heim. Euthanasia doesn't sound to bad for me right now. JUST KIDDING!!!! (Horrible joke) Sorry, but I just couldn't resist! I love my life -- really!
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Add the new tat & you're in there....
