I am back and posting just trying to get caught up with your sitch, I agree with beginnersmind I don't think you screwed up sometimes they need to hear the truth to give them a dose of reality. I am in the same sitch I told her I am letting her go as well she is up to the same old tricks.
Jeff
ME 44 W 32 M 5 T 6
no kids
June 08 I don't want to be married it's not you it's me
I do find it interesting that she all of a sudden had to have contact and wanted to come over. Right now it means nothing though. This is for me, I can't get sucked back into the same old same old pattern.
trapt...just do. No need to tell her that you are moving on. Just do it. Actions speak louder than words. If you truly ARE moivng on, she will see it. Sounds like you were trying to sell her on it or bring about a reaction.
Make decisions based on what YOU WANT...not based on how it will affect her or what reaction she will have.
Stay strong. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
I didn't tell her I was moving on. I said I was moving foward. She is aware she has a choice. I didn't say any of this to get a reaction, I did it for me because it's the way I feel.
wass up my brother? Sounds like you are taking the driver seat and that is good. Warm weather is coming and we all will have an awesome summer!
Well, your right....I'm in MY driverseat. I want our marriage to work. I really do. This whole experience has really opened my eyes. I like who I am becoming, and without this I don't know if that would have ever happened. I'm going with "it" whatever "it" is. It's not for me to know right now.
I know you know how to find me. My boat is calling our names. (I might as well use it, incase I lose it LOL!) Lake St. Clair is killer in the summer. I'm hardcore though man the day the ice goes out my boat will be hitting the water. Hopefully this weekend does it. It's kind of a trip to be out in the boat fishing with snowflakes falling.
I just got back from taking my dog for a walk and I am in short sleeves. Just Days away now.
