It's been awhile since I've been to these forums. I wanted to write a brief update for those of you who followed my story a few months back and to provide others some much needed hope and faith...
My H and I are now 'back together', living in the same home, once again... it feels so good. It wasn't easy, it wasn't fun, it wasn't with a simple snap of the fingers, or without lots of patients. It was far from 'easy'. But it was necessary for us to realize who we are, where we are, and what we, as a couple, want for our future. We both grew up, to be honest.
We both learned a lot in the last few months. There is a difference between being loved and being lovable, being supportive, and being supportable. Think about that. My H is much more relaxed, very much his good old self again, and so lovable. The tension has melted away, and we are in a good place right now.
The absolute best advice I can ever give someone is to simple have patients. Be true and honest to yourself, because if you can't love yourself, how on earth can anyone else love you? DO THE WORK! Your relationship is relying on it!
Thanks for the update!!!