WAW willing to try, for now (#2)

[OnlyBent]

I suspect MWD would disagree with you. LH, I am constantly surprised by the fact that you spend so much time on this site and not over on, say, the chump lady's website. It really doesn't seem like you subscribe to the principles of DBing in general.

May, I guess everyone is coloured by the nature of their experience. I know that you suffered awful treatment at the hands of your H, and I'm sure it is no recompense, but you have also had the benefit of his remorse and attempts to makes amends. Remember that not everyone has had that. Please don't take that as a slight on you, I know from your posting that you are kind and compassionate, and I think that almost everyone else on here is too, in their own way.

I may not agree with 100% of what LH says, but his intentions are pure and he is ready to support anyone on here with the message that is coloured by his experience.

What is the point of this forum? For me, I know I came here at a pretty dark time and more than anything, as unhealthy as this sounds, it was a crutch. I didn't even need a response to my sithc, just anyone posting having remotely the same experience as me eased the hurt that I was feeling. Being told that no matter what happened I would be ok, and to continue focussing on myself got me through some hard times. Does it matter whether it was 180, detach, become AMOAFWL or move on, go dark, never look back...I don't think so.

This site has people who have shared experiences, some recon, some don't. But most of us come out the other end better from the experience because we learn a of things about ourselves and a better way to live, some of these encapsulated by DBing, some extra to DBing. I'm not sure of the utility of arguing these points and I'd love to see this forum get back to the core of helping each other, whatever form that may take.

R2C, AS are very wise. MrBside, LH are blunt and direct, May and CW are compassionate, SteveLW is SteveLW (jokes). What's more important is that these people take the time to help others who really, really need it. They need to know that what is happening is not unique, that we understand and that whatever happens you will be ok and in fact its a grand opportunity to improve, although it might not be what for in life....but hey isn't that life all the time?