It didn't feel weird when I found out I was pregnant because we continued a turbulant on/off relationship since we split up, so to be honest I didn't think the divorce meant much. I was scared because he's fought with me over the kids a lot and I thought he might do that with this baby, and of course I am worried what people will think of me having a baby with my XH, which is why I have only told 2 friends so far, but in myself, I am usually okay with it.
I hope to re-marry him in the future but don't want to while the baby is small as that would give him parental rights (he doesn't have any at the moment). So a future goal would be to live together. If we're still together when the baby is 6 or 7, then I'd consider re-marriage.
I am moving in with him about 2 weeks before I am due (in May) but don't know if that's a permanent thing. He wants to move house after that so we'll just see if we feel comfortable with it yet.
I am having a home birth (at his house) and am actually looking forward to it aside from the pain aspect of it.
Congrats Jo!! Boys are a blast!! then again, thats all I know but always loved my male child I am partial to Blaine, Garrett and of course, my all time fav, Ryan
Be Happy for this Moment, This Moment is your Life
Jo boys are very loving as babies and small children. However if my S14 is anything to go by they make extremely moody teenagers Of course I wouldn't swop him for the world and he did have a big sister to learn from and a little sister to teach!
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
I've got to admit, I'm really nervous about him being a boy, although I'm thrilled. It's certainly going to be more interesting than if I'd had a 5th girl.
I hear different things from people. Some say boys about 7 or 8 are the hardest because they shout and play boxing and guns and they're all hyperactive until they fall asleep, and some say they're great and cuddly and that the teenage ones are difficult, and I keep hearing all these stories about how baby boys spray all over you and have tiny erections (a fact I didn't know until a couple of years ago).
It's like being a first time parent again. I feel as if I don't have a clue.
Every time he moves, I think 'Flipping heck, you're a miniture man!' He'll probably be bringing me his washing when he's 30. I have no idea how to mother a man, LOL.
I am hoping when he's born I will just switch into this natural mother mode and know exactly what to do.
I only wanted girls. I run a dance school and that's all I know - little girls. I sure wanted one of my own. Then I had 2 boys. No one could love their sons more. They were absolutely WONDERFUL!!! Still are. Did go on and have the daughter - much more work. Still, I cherish every minute.
They say a son is a son till he takes a wife but a daughter's a daughter all of her life. Don't know about that yet but my son now lives in Toronto. Still phones his mom regularly, visits often and wouldn't miss my birthday, Christmas etc.
Boys are joy!!!
Barb (who also LOVES the name Ryan and of course Brandon)
