I spent the weekend with my H and it was good. We started talking about rearranging some of the furniture when I bring back the furniture that I took for my apt. It was a good feeling - rebuilding. I still expect my H to recommit to our M by way of renewing our vows, but for now, we are moving forward. This has been a long and difficult journey and we still have a long way to go, but I believe that the journey will be easier with my best friend traveling with me.
I'm going home.....wish me luck!!!
I'll still be here on the board. Hopefully to encourage others and probably at times asking for encouragement for myself.
Just a quick update. I moved home. I panicked there for a while, wondering if I was ready, but as soon as my stuff was in house, it felt right. My H and I went to MC on Thursday and it went really good. As a matter of fact, I told my husband that I was grateful that he never gave up on us and he said the same goes for him. We told our MC that this would be our last session. We said good-bye to him and we had a wonderful weekend. I must confess that I still struggle with the past, but I'm trying really hard to let it go and now that I have some clear direction, maybe I will be able to finally do just that.
Hello all. Update. I'm home, things are going well but this morning I asked if the OW has been calling him and he answered "not lately". Then he became a little aggrevated that I asked the question. I said to him, well you would tell me if she was, right? He said "I don't know, maybe". I really hate his answers. He wanted to know what was up and all I can say is that things are going well, really well, and I don't want interference. He has changed his password on his cell. He gave it to me some time ago, but now he's changed it. Why would he do this at this time? My past behaviors has caused him to withdraw from answering questions, but how do you rebuild when you can't be honest and open? Any suggestions. I really want this to work but can it with what I still call being secretive? How do I bring this up without "bringing up the past"? Any help with this one?
If you had his cell password would you be checking up on him? snooping? and would it do any good? how would it help? Try to remember this is an adjustment period for him as well, that you are back home now.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
What is a vital key to your marriage restoration? The answer is obedience. Your obedience in listening and obeying your Lord Jesus Christ's voice of instructions in your daily life. I believe with all my heart, that if you will seek the Lord for His plan and purpose for your life and marriage, your Lord God will speak to you showing His will and way. That is vital for you to be able to have the assurance that you are on the right road following your Lord Jesus Christ.
"Whoever has my commands and obeys them, he is the one who loves me. He who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I too will love him and show myself to him." John 14:21
"My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me." John 10:27
Do you know what is one of the most important prayers that you can pray for your spouse other than for repentance? It is for obedience. That will take your spouse from hearing the Lord telling them over and over again to get out of their situation, TO doing it! If we would take a survey of how the Lord is speaking to your spouse to come home, almost guaranteed, they had been told more times than they could count to: get out of their situation, turn their life to the Lord and go back to you, their spouse.
You need to pray for your mate's obedience. Their disobedience is blocking them coming to their Lord and back home to you. I do not believe Bob could tell you how many times the Lord told him to stop doing what he was doing. God kept calling Bob's name to return to the Lord and to go home!
"A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered. Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue." Proverbs 17:27-28
Tomorrow marks the 1 year anniversary of the bomb. For all the successful piercers, will this always be a significant day in my life, let's say like a birthday or anniversary? That's depressing! Any suggestions on how to clear my head of this day?
