Good and strange news: even after big fight and MAJOR setback by begging him once more to take me back, I put myself quickly back on the 180's track and went for a party last night. He came by to walk the dog in the afternoon and today I found out he was there until midnight, probably wondering where I was. Today I decided to not go online and see what happened. By 3pm he called just to check up on me. I called back, we talked for 10 minutes and he kept asking me questions about my life. I was very brief and said I had to go. He mentioned he was at the house until 12pm and asked about the party.
Found a few links that were helpful to me, so I thought I would share them with you. You've most likely already seen them, but just in case. I hope they help you understand a little more of what's going on.
My H left the house about two months ago, but now wants to come back and is pretty much asking me to leave. We had a fight and he agreed to let me stay there until we decide what to do. However, since I decided to go with LRT, would it be a better idea for me to move out so he doesn't have much control of where I am and what I am doing?
I was offline all day (very much a 180) again and when I get home, whose car is in the driveway? I went straight to take a shower (another 180 for my "hanging around to see what he had to say"). Once I came downstairs he was friendly w/ questions about my life. He decided to clean the dog's ears (a process that takes time) while I watched TV. I went upstairs to fold some clothes and he came shortly after. He asked what my schedule was for tomorrow and for me to call after I see a doctor.
I need help figuring out one mystery: He has been leaving his clothes here (he changes from work clothes to gym clothes to walk the dog) for the last two days. I had asked him a million times to do it when I was just doing 180's (because I do my laundry anyway and I know he never does his - I was trying to be nice) and he said that he rather take them with him. Now he is leaving them here. I am seeing too much in this?
First, don't move out. If he wants out, fine, don't make it easier on him by leaving unless you really can't afford to stay. But make that a last resort.
Second, to get excited or not. I see a lot of possitives in your sitch. When things happen that make you excited or happy, that's good, but try not to let anything he does get you too high or too low. They change hourly. So yes, maybe it's a good thing or maybe he's just being lazy. Don't try to figure it out. Just keep going the way you are. He's sticking around more, so something must be working!
I don't think you are. Let him miss you. That's important. When he does contact you, answer every other time and return every other call. That sort of thing. Remember you're busy GAL. Let him wonder. If he's calling, coming over, asking what's going on, those are good things. If he didn't care about you or thought you'd moved on or something, he wouldn't put forth the effort. Just don't be cold and don't completely stop communicating with him.
Good for you and keep it up! 
