Hi gang. 180s take initiative and here are some ideas you can implement yourself. The post below was written by Dagny.
/Tia
Get a life and 180s seem to fit hand and hand at times. I've been gathering a list of suggestions from people on this site. Here it is:
PHYSICAL ACTIVITIES Exercise Walk around the block Take up a new sport: Kayaking Weight lifting Jogging Train for a marathon Soccer Biking Target Shooting Karate Tennis Skiing Snowboarding Scuba Boating Golf Swimming Hiking Cross-country skiing Yoga Aerobics
PERSONAL APPERANCE Start to wear perfume/cologne Change your style of clothing: skirts, not slacks, heels, not flats, new colors, loafers, not sneakers. Get a new haircut/style Change your hair color/add highlights Get a pedicure Get a manicure (men too!) Get fake nails Shave/Don’t shave—grow a beard, mustache, or soul patch, shave your back
HOBBIES Take a class: cooking, painting, yoga, pottery, meditation, photography Join a book club Start a book club Take up gardening: plant bulbs for spring (still okay until the ground freezes) Learn a new language Volunteer: Senior Center, Hospital, Animal Shelter, Non-profits Go to Church/Synagogue Explore a new religion (Soup has a website for Buddhism) Website recommended: pathways-to-peace.com Learn about Feng-shui Learn a new instrument Learn to knit/crochet/cross-stitch
PERSONAL WELL-BEING Eat Breakfast Eat well Change your diet –switch to low carb/low fat, many out there to choose from Change the type of food you cook---explore a whole new ethnicity Sleep Tickle the kids Call Friends Read Self-help books Create Goals Read Success Stories Go see a therapist yourself Make a list of all your good points and talents Lose Weight
BEHAVIORS Begin to have an organized home (recommended website: flylady.net) Find a new way to drive to and from work Shop at a new grocery store Change the type of toothpaste you use Be home when spouse comes home/ comes over Don’t be home Wait to return calls/emails—a day, a few hours, whatever is different Change the medium of contact—phone/email/letters Learn to flirt. Practice on people you don’t know Break Plates to release anger (garage sales would be good to stock up on these) Become Mysterious Stop initiating any conversations Go to another room when spouse comes home Stop interfering/helping spouse with relationship with kids Don’t make plans that include spouse Stop keeping spouse informed on kids Stop confronting spouse Leave the room first End the conversation first Go one day without saying “hurry” to your kids Stop defending self Listen! (Mockers in piecing has a great poem about this)
PAMPERING Watch a funny movie Listen to audio tapes: suggested Jack Kornfiled/ Pema Chodron Listen to music Go see an IMAX movie (Coral Reef recommended) Buy Peppermint Foot Lotion Buy new underwear—men, lots of new types of underwear out there! Take a coffee or tea break Throw a party Paint a room Rearrange furniture
